Sunday, August 26, 2018

How to Be More Convincing

What if you could convince yourself that the smallest change in how you train, treat people or say something can make a huge difference in increasing your success influencing a situation? How would that positively affect your life and job?

Well, here's a quick Communication Tip that I picked up a long time ago from Zig Ziglar (way back in my sales days). It can help you influence someone to listen to an idea you have.

...AND actually sell themselves on the idea!!

Here's how it goes...

Instead of saying, "If I can convince you that..." say, "If you could convince yourself that ..." Then continue emphasizing the benefits of what you are having them consider.

Here's an example:

Not this: "Jerry, if I can convince you that learning how to influence people through inspiration rather than intimidation is so much more effective, would you listen to what I had to say?"

THIS! "Jerry, if you could convince yourself that influencing people through inspiration rather than intimidation is so much more effective in getting what you wanted, what would that look like?"

Yes, some people will look at you w/a slack jaw and say,

"I don't know." 

Or they might come back at you w/a sarcastic comment like,

"It wouldn't look like anything, because I ain't convincing myself of na'thin from the likes of you."

You're right, no trick or technique work's on everybody all of the time, but it is another powerful tool that often works to your benefit when attempting to influence someone.

This one flips things around psychologically in their head and takes the focus off from you trying to convince them and subtly invites then to figure out ways of convincing themselves.

So What Do You Do If It Doesn't Work!?

Great question!

That's why maintaining a good Baseline and having other tools in your toolbox is so important!

That's exactly why I developed to give you the resources to protect yourself (and others) Verbally, Physically & Emotionally.

Feeling safe and confident when dealing w/difficult & dangerous people will give you the room to do your job, run your business, teach your class, complete your mission, or do whatever else you are aiming to accomplish at your job or in your Life!

...All while living a safer, healthier, happier Life!

Why do you have to worry about it!?


No matter who you are, or what you do, we all have to deal with people! And with people comes CONFLICT.

...And opportunities, but only if you know how to deal with things well!

So, the more you learn about how to stay cool under pressure, talk more persuasively, and knowing if it all goes to 'hell in a hand basket,' that you can protect yourself, the less you worry. The less you worry, the more you have the time and energy for everything else in your life!

And THAT'S what it's all about!

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Wednesday, August 22, 2018

See Something Say Something!

Awareness is incredibly important skill to have for our survival & success!

Across the country, in our communities, we share everyday moments with our neighbors, family, coworkers, and friends. We go to work or school, the grocery store, or the gas station. It's easy to overlook these routine moments, but as you’re going about your day if you see something that doesn't seem quite right, say something. By being alert and reporting suspicious activity to your local law enforcement you can protect your family, neighbors, and community.
"If You See Something, Say Something®" is a program through the Department of Homeland Security that was designed to help engage the public in protecting our homeland through awareness-building, partnerships, and other outreach.

To report suspicious activity please contact your local law enforcement. Describe specifically what you observed, including:
Who or what you saw;
When you saw it;
Where it occurred; and
Why it's suspicious.
If there is an emergency, call 9–1–1.

Learn It, Live It, Teach It! For all of us!

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Thursday, August 16, 2018

Evolution of a Protector

Here are the elements of the Evolution of a Protector… 

The process to becoming a PeaceWalker…

IDENTITY – Clarity in (1) Who will you choose to be? (2) What will you choose to see in others (separating their Life Value from Behavior & Beliefs)

ATTITUDE – (1) Seeing Conflict as an Opportunity. (2) Focusing on the right things. (3) Setting The Pace.

AWARENESS – (1) Yourself, (2) The Potential Threat (3) Situational Environment.

INFLUENCE – Your presence, Your verbal communication skills - What you say (and don’t), Your Behavior - What you Do (and don’t).

PHYSICAL ACTION – How to Engage or Disengage.

*You’ll notice that Krav Maga mainly touches on one of those categories… Physical Action, which Ironically is the last category! Yes, an important one, but it's only ONE!

Clarity and continued work on your Identity is essential!


Because it doesn't matter how much skill you have if you don't have clarity in your PROTECTOR IDENTITY, you are likely to use your skills in the wrong way.

Remember that your Ethic creates your Strategy that drive your Tactics & Techniques! So, if you're Ethics aren't clear or pointing toward Most Good / Least Harm, it will detrimentally affect the rest of your plans and actions!

I could go on about each of those sections... and I do discuss them more in my upcoming Video Series "The Evolution of a Protector."

More later...

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Tuesday, August 7, 2018

How Tactfully Tell Your Boss to Prioritize Better

Let's face it, in today's day-&-age it seems we're trying to fit 10 pounds of Sh8t in a 5 pound bag...

We Need Priorities!

Sometimes we are so busy putting out fires that everything seems like it needs to be done right NOW!

However, there is only so much time...

It doesn't matter if it's your boss, spouse, business partner, chief, commanding officer, supervisor, customer, manager, client, kids, etc...

Sometimes we have to call a 'Time Out' and get things straight!! So how do we 'Create Some Space' to Prioritize!?

Seems simple enough, but HOW do you do it?

...How do you SAY it?!

First, before you open your mouth, make sure you stay Baseline (Basically, keep a cool head and be part of the solution, not part of the problem). So you can speak, not out of emotion, panic or anger, but using logic and the right tone to create open communication.

Then you could say something like this...

"I know there is a lot going on right now and everything seems important. However..."

(Choose one...)

a. If you had to pick what the most important thing is to get done first, what would it be?
b. I'm a bit confused about what is most important.
c. I'm not sure what the top priorities are?
d. Let's get some clarity on what the top priority is.
e. I'd like to get everything done too, however we can't, so let's decide what the top priority is so we can get that one out of the way first, before moving to the next.

"For example..."

(Then give them an example or suggestion regarding what you mean or what might be the largest priority.)

"Can you tell me..."

(Choose one... or mix & match)

a. What do you see as the most important thing?
b. How we could best sort this out?
c. If there is anyone who we might be able to help with these things?

(After they communicate what their thoughts are and you both come to some kind of agreement)

"Thanks for going over this with me! To summarize and make sure I got things right, we're / you're going to first focus on ____________, then address _________ and then if there is any time left we can tackle ___________."

"Does that sound right?"

(Confirm in writing if needed)

There you go! Easy Peazy! =)

...AND there's your PeaceWalker Tactic of the Day!

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