Showing posts from September, 2020

Here's the Thing w/Difficult Conversations...

  There are many types of difficult conversations... The ones I'm talking about today are those who we have with people we know and want to be able to trust. You see, trust, in the most basic sense, is placing confidence in another person, and in return, them placing confidence in you.  In BrenĂ© Brown’s book, Daring Greatly, she shares a story of her young daughter losing trust in her best friends and her subsequent decision to never trust anyone again. BrenĂ© uses the analogy of a marble jar to help her daughter understand how trust is built.  Here's how it works: Every person has a metaphoric 'Trust Jar' that marbles are added to or taken away from.  Here are some ways to add to the jar: ~ Spend quality time with that person ~ When they do good things for you (w/the right intent) ~ When they open up and share stories about themselves. ~ When they are honest with you.  The more stories, experiences and deeds they share, and the deeper they are, the more marbles you are

SFT... WTH?!

I just re-watched a movie I really like, it's called Seven Days in Utopia. It's about a young, up and coming pro-golfer who just melted down at his last tournament. He ends up wrecking his car in the middle of nowhere, a place called Utopia. He gets help from an old guy named Johnny, who he later finds out was a top notch PGA golfer. Johnny takes Lucas under his wing and mentors him in golf and more importantly in Life. And just like a 'Mr. Myogi' of the golfing world, Johnny coaches the young lad into developing both his golf and personal game.  By using some very unique training methods (much like Myogi), Johnny instills the lessons that could ensure Luke's future in golf and as a man.  One of the exercises that johnny has his new protege' do is to begin to: See It Feel It Trust It SFT Ironically, this is a process that I help students to develop as well... Only, rather than golf we are training how to defend ourselves (and others). Learning how to SEE conflic

Is This the Calm Before the Storm?!

Those who know me understand that I'm not one of these doomsday, prepper, conspiracy theorists, alien abduction, zombie apocalypse fear'n kind of guys. HOWEVER... =) There are many experts who are thinking that we may be experiencing the calm before the storm of what's coming regarding (more) government control and (potentially) violent social erosion & unrest.  And I have to be honest here... It has me a bit concerned as well... I'm pretty level headed and  'moderate'  when it comes to things like this, but with what we've experienced in the last few months, there is good reason to be vigilant at the very least.  There has been a lot of change and with change comes conflict. There is still a lot of uncertainty with some big issues coming up on the horizon:  ~ This pandemic  ~ The November election  ~ The economy  ~ Government control & power ~ National efforts to de-fund our police ~ Social/political movements that are sweeping people up to draw sid

The Art of Shaking Off the Dirt

I thought it would be a good time for a short tie-in story. I'm not sure who originally wrote this one, but you can find a version of it in Lt. Col. (Ret) Joe Shusko's book: Tie-Ins for Life. Here's the link: Never Quit! One day a farmer needed to fill in his dried up well. When he came up to the hole, he saw that his old donkey fell into it. It was just laying there crying.  Trying to figure out what to do, the farmer finally decided that the donkey was too old and feeble and it wasn't worth the effort to get it out of the well. The well needed to be filled up anyway, so he could kill two birds with one stone so to speak. Fill in the well and bury the donkey. The farmer asked all his neighbors to help him. So, they all grabbed a shovel and began shoveling dirt into the well.  At first the donkey thought they were going to help him. However, as the shovel loads of dirt began fallin