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Here's the Real 'Secret' of Sparring... It's NOT What You Think!

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  Last week's email struck a nerve w/some of you out there. No death threats mind you, but some folks certainly didn't totally pick up what I was laying down so to speak.  What was it that was sooooo saucy you ask?! Some out there mis-interpreted this statement, "Take sparring for instance. The 'Go Hard or Go Home' method will just get you f*d up and wrecked. ESPECIALLY if you are over 40."  I get the impression that some people out there may have thought that I meant that sparring wasn't 'necessary', was' ineffective', or shouldn't be done in regards to training how to protect yourself. NO! That's NOT what I meant at all.  That statement is simply bringing your attention to the fact that many people and approaches put too much emphasis on the WRONG type of sparring.  Most go to hard and take themselves too seriously.  As Ryron Gracie says, "Keep it playful." Most of the real pro's that I've worked with over the ye

You've Heard of Train Smarter Not Harder Right!?

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  It's never a good idea to bang your head against the wall in the hopes of improving brain functions. Yet, figuratively speaking, some people insist on doing it over and over again. And when you do your best to help them out of their self-imposed trap, they get upset with you. Often times, it's better to just leave 'em alone. Pain is a great teacher, I've found. When you get hurt, you have time to re-evaluate what you were doing. You can ask yourself if there IS a better way. You can think about the idea that perhaps you were sold a pile of BS about what you're doing.  Take sparring for instance. The 'Go Hard or Go Home' method will just get you f*d up and wrecked. ESPECIALLY if you are over 40.  Yet, I see so many of these places advocating it.  In reality if you don't do things correctly, you'll just keep getting injured, resulting in less training and inevitably you quitting and not training at all! How's THAT going to help you to protect you

This Joke's on Them!

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  Ever Run Into a Complainer? You know there are some people that will just complain about anything and everything.  I ran into one not that long ago. There was no making this guy happy. No matter what solution I presented, it wasn't good enough for him.  As a matter of fact, he was clueless that HE was the common denominator in all of his problems.  Of course he didn't see it that way.  He ran into the same situation over and over again (continually getting hurt in training.). After hearing his complaints a few times, I discretely watched him as he trained.  I witnessed him saying things like,  "Come on you can go harder than that.." Or "...Is that all you got?!" Or the crowd favorite... "What if I did 'THIS'?"  (followed by an inappropriate, out of context  quick, jerky attack (or movement), that his partner wasn't expecting, causing them to respond accordingly). Or this guy would simply going to fast, hard and wild for his ability, l

Signing of the Declaration of Independence

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  The Signing of the Declaration of Independence By H. A. Guerber John Hancock, President of Congress, was the first to sign the Declaration of Independence, writing his name in large, plain letters, and saying: "There! John Bull can read my name without spectacles. Now let him double the price on my head, for this is my defiance." Then he turned to the other members, and solemnly declared: "We must be unanimous. There must be no pulling different ways. We must all hang together." "Yes," said Franklin, quaintly, "we must all hang together, or most assuredly we shall all hang separately." We are told that Charles Carroll, thinking that his writing looked shaky, added the words, "of Carrollton," so that the king should not be able to make any mistake as to whose name stood there. Happy Independence Day! Don't forget how we got here and why!  Keep an eye on the past as we forge the future.  Best, ~Craig Declare your own independence by

This 'Cure' Is Worse Than the Disease!

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  Remedy... Cure... Disease... Many "Cures" are worse than the disease.  Take prescription drugs for example.  You ever watch those TV commercials where they show you how great everything is after taking a super drug, only to hear hat creepy voice pop up at the end (at 10x normal speed, so they can fit everything in), rattling off a list of side effects that include everything from depression and suicidal thoughts to coma or death!? In our world... That of self defense, personal protection, conflict management and defensive tactics it's very much the same. If you're not careful, the ' Cure'  can end up turning you into part of the problem.  It's a subtle shift resulting from being unclear.  You come in to learn how to become a better protector and end up with an... OUT THUG the THUG MENTALITY! It's an easy trap to fall into! Many unwittingly fall into this trap of thinking they have to be meaner, tougher, more ruthless than the 'bad guys'! BUT

Do You Have THIS Limitation!?

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  Joe, one of our Private PeaceWalker Member's forwarded me this great tie in story I wanted to share with you. Check it out! Limitations & Opportunities A young man once wandered into a Judo school, because he wanted to learn how to throw people... you know... for self defense. However, he only had one arm. His Judo coach wouldn't let him jump into the normal classes... instead, he was forced to stay off on the side and practice a beginner throw. Every day, the other students were allowed to master super-sweet moves and sweeps, while our One-Armed judoka did the same. boring. throw... over and over. One day, the young man finally complained. "I want to do advanced class with all of the other students. Don't limit me because of my disability!"! The sensei stopped the class, and replied, "Well, NOW you're going to fight everyone in the gym. Let's see who throws who!" What a jerk... AM I RIGHT!? So he reluctantly stepped onto the mat with his f

Now THIS is the Text You Want to Get!

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I got a text from one of our Private PeaceWalker Members a couple days ago.  He's a Court Officer who uses his PeaceWalker training quite frequently in his job. For privacy  (and my own amusement)   we'll call him Dog, as in Dog the bounty hunter  (I'm sure he'll love that!=).  Well, Dog got a call from  'the office'  that one of his  'clients'  had to either follow through getting his blood test or be arrested on a bench warrant.  The last thing Dog wanted to have to do is go to the hood and make an arrest. Fortunately, Dog is good at what he does, isn't a douche canoe, and he uses an ample amount of the PeaceWalker approach to make allies not enemies. So, even when he has to serve papers, or in this case leave a message that if this dude doesn't get his court ordered blood test, he'll have to come and arrest him, he is able to get things done in a more safe, respectable, even easier way. Here's the texts I got from Dog describing the ph

Here's the Real Thing Holding Most People Back!

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  Funny how you make plans and then they change... Life just seems to be that way.  Just like learning to defend yourself. You learn to make plans of action, only to have them fall apart in the moment of crisis, however, it's better to start with a plan and have to change it rather than not have a plan at all. Today I am reminded of a story about not letting failed attempts thwart your future efforts.  The Elephant & Rope  Never let one failure from the past hold you back in the future: A man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not. He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. ‘Well,’ trainer said, ‘when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie

Memorial Day: A Time For Heroes by Nancy Sullivan Geng

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  I leaned against an oak at the side of the road, wishing I were invisible, keeping my distance from my parents on their lawn chairs and my younger siblings scampering about. I hoped none of my friends saw me there. God forbid they caught me waving one of the small American flags Mom bought at Ben Franklin for a dime. At 16, I was too old and definitely too cool for our small town's Memorial Day parade. I ought to be at the lake , I brooded. But, no, the all-day festivities were  mandatory  in my family. A high school band marched by, the girl in sequins missing her baton as it tumbled from the sky. Firemen blasted sirens in their polished red trucks. The uniforms on the troop of World War II veterans looked too snug on more than one member. "Here comes Mema," my father shouted. Five black convertibles lumbered down the boulevard. The mayor was in the first, handing out programs. I didn't need to look at one. I knew my uncle Bud's name was printed on it, as it ha

Putting the "B" In Itching!

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  Itch... Itch... Itch... You ever find yourself complaining?  Sometimes you may not notice it really. It starts small and grows. Then it Grows, and GROWS! Suddenly, you realize you sound like one of "those" people. You know the one's I'm talking about?! Those negative ones that no one wants to be around. There are some days you start feeling this coming on and you choose to do something about it.  Sometimes, just realizing you're in 'that' spot, stopping for a moment, taking a couple deep breaths and recalibrating a second is all it takes.  Other times, you have to go to greater lengths to get out of this state. There are many methods you can employ. As a matter of fact, I go over several of them in the PeaceWalker Conflict Communication Course and other modules.( If you're a private member go check them out.) My first attempt at changing my state failed. No amount of breathing and trying to adjust my attitude was working, so I decided to go for a wal

A Perspective that Would Really Change Things

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  “Every Sunday morning I take a light jog around a park near the academy. There’s a pond located in one corner of the park. Each time I jog by this lake, I see the same elderly woman sitting at the water’s edge with a small metal cage sitting beside her. This past Sunday my curiosity got the best of me, so I stopped jogging and walked over to her. As I got closer, I realized that the metal cage was in fact a small trap. There were three turtles, unharmed, slowly walking around the base of the trap. She had a fourth turtle in her lap that she was carefully scrubbing with a spongy brush. . ‘Hello,’ I said. ‘I see you here every Sunday morning. If you don’t mind my nosiness, I’d love to know what you’re doing with these turtles.’ . She smiled. ‘I’m cleaning off their shells,” she replied. “Anything on a turtle’s shell, like algae or scum, reduces the turtle’s ability to absorb heat and impedes its ability to swim. It can also corrode and weaken the shell over time.’ . ‘Wow! That’s really

The Art of Clever

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  The Pebbled Path In a small Italian town, hundreds of years ago, a small business owner owed a large sum of money to a loan-shark. The loan-shark was a very old, unattractive looking guy that just so happened to fancy the business owner’s daughter. He decided to offer the businessman a deal that would completely wipe out the debt he owed him. However, the catch was that we would only wipe out the debt if he could marry the businessman’s daughter. Needless to say, this proposal was met with a look of disgust. The loan-shark said that he would place two pebbles into a bag, one white and one black. The daughter would then have to reach into the bag and pick out a pebble. If it was black, the debt would be wiped, but the loan-shark would then marry her. If it was white, the debt would also be wiped, but the daughter wouldn’t have to marry the loan-shark. Standing on a pebble-strewn path in the businessman’s garden, the loan-shark bent over and picked up two pebbles. Whilst he was picking

Here's What's Really Behind the Fear

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  It's been quite a day! A lot has happened... Not all good, but it ended up alright.  Have you ever had a day like that!? I think we all had a year like that... It was called 2020! =) Somehow though, it reminds me of what Nelson Mandela said at his inauguration. It was a powerful poem that was written by a woman named Marianne Williamson. It could have easily been written for people just like you and I, before beginning this path as a Protector, as a PeaceWalker. Why? Because. It's like that beautiful poem Marianne wrote. Truer words could not have been spoken about what the membership and this community is helping people to become... Powerful Protectors!  ______________________________ _________________ OUR DEEPEST FEAR ______________________________ _________________ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness That most frightens us. We ask ourselves Who am I to be brilliant, gorge