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A Warrior Looks Up!

The Buzzard, the Bat & the Bumblebee
If you put a buzzard in a pen six or eight feet square and entirely open at the top, the bird, in spite of his ability to fly, will be an absolute prisoner. 
The reason is that a buzzard always begins a flight from the ground w/a run of ten to twelve feet. Without space to run, he will not even attempt to fly, purely out of habit. This habit would keep him a prisoner for life in a small jail with no top.
The ordinary bat is actually quite an extraordinary flying creature, however it cannot take off from a level place. If it is placed on the floor or flat ground, all it can do is shuffle around helplessly. It needs a slight elevation to throw itself into the air in order to initiate its flight. 
If a bumblebee is dropped into an open container, it will be there until it dies, unless it is taken out. It never sees the means of escape at the top. It will continue to try to find its way out through the sides near the bottom. It keeps looking for a way …

The Problem with the Hall of Justice

Here's the Problem...
In my last blog post we talked about the need for your own personal F.o.S. (Fortress of Solitude). And as important as that is, we have to talk about another similar necessity for being a protector. 
You also need your Hall of Justice, Shaolin Temple, Viking Lodge, Marine Corps M.A.C.E., etc.
Basically, along with your personal enclave, you need a place where you come together with your community of com padre's to connect, train, share, grow and collectively plan.
It's a place where the Fellowship meets. The Command Post, Training Center, place of celebration and to re-connect as a group.
So... Where's the problem?!
The problem is that most people don't have that 'tribal headquarters' they need to help them bring it together.
You want a 'place' that when you enter, you are surrounded by like minded people who help you to become the best version of you that you can be in relation to what you're trying to accomplish. 
When it comes t…

Your Own Fortress of Solitude

Batman has the Batcave. Superman has his Fortress of Solitude (F.o.S.). Zorro and Dr. Strange have their Lairs...
Where's your's?
Do you have one?!
Well if you don't, you need to change that IMMEDIATELY!
Why You NEED A F.o.S.
First let's clarify what it is and isn't. 
NO, it isn't a Man Cave... here's the distinct difference. 
A Man Cave is centered around relaxing, unwinding and entertainment... and that's definitely a good thing...
A F.o.S. is waaaaaaaaaaaay more than that!
A F.o.S. is a place where you do recharge, but it is also a place where you prepare, you train, you scheme, you strategize... your next caper, your mission to change the world (or at least your own)!
A place where you can be left to your own thoughts. Figure things out... To become!
A place that is more like a magnifying glass that helps you to focus your powers to accomplish your mission. 
Building Your Own F.o.S.
It would be opportune if you had a specific physical space dedicated t…

How a Simple NO Changed Everything!

If I didn't say NO to somethings, I wouldn't be able to say YES to others. 
Yes and No are important communications devices to have in your conflict communication toolbox as well. Ones that are so simple they are often overlooked. 
You'd think that these two innocent sounding words would not be so misused. But we misuse and abuse them often... Way too often!
Let's forget about YES for now and focus on NO. Just a simple no. 
It seems easy enough, until you feel uncomfortable saying it. Or you say it and then follow up by a bunch of excuses that negates your intent altogether. 
We have been conditioned to be wishy washy. Most of our days are filled with maybe, perhaps, we'll see and other non-committal words and phrases.
Often times when we say no, we feel guilty, when in actuality we should feel emancipated! 
A simple NO is liberating when used correctly with the right intent. 
Here are some simple varieties that you can use today!

"I appreciate you asking and no."

Woken Up In the Middle of the Night...

I hope you had a great holiday weekend. Some good time spent with your family and friends undoubtedly?!
I hope you took a moment or two to remember and honor what this weekend is really all about. 
In that spirit, I thought I'd share with you Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's famous poem...
Paul Revere's Ride By Henry Wadsworth Longfellow - 1807-1882 
Listen, my children, and you shall hear Of the midnight ride of Paul Revere, On the eighteenth of April, in Seventy-Five: Hardly a man is now alive Who remembers that famous day and year.
He said to his friend, “If the British march By land or sea from the town to-night, Hang a lantern aloft in the belfry-arch Of the North-Church-tower, as a signal-light,— One if by land, and two if by sea; And I on the opposite shore will be, Ready to ride and spread the alarm Through every Middlesex village and farm, For the country-folk to be up and to arm.”
Then he said “Good night!” and with muffled oar Silently rowed to the Charlestown shore, Just as the moon ro…

The Power of Raw & Unbridled Crowds

I remember my first real experience feeling the raw power and potential danger of a huge crowd. 
You see, I was a huge Zepplin fan and like so many, I  was very sad that I missed the opportunity to ever see them live. They broke up when I was very young. 
After Zep broke up each of the members went their different ways to form their own bands. 
The year was 1985 and I finally had the opportunity to see Jimmy Page, Led Zeppelins former leader, producer and guitarist. At the time, he was playing with his band The Firm along w/Paul Rogers, Chris Slade and Tony Franklin.
I was just 15 years old, I had the chance to see his band at Wings Stadium in Kalamazoo, Michigan. I went with a few friends. We were determined to be right up by the stage...
Now you have to keep in mind that these were the days when general admission gave you access to front and center of the stage. That section was standing room only. If you got there early enough, were assertive enough and could stand your ground, you coul…

A Bully is a Bully...

They come in many many forms.
Actually, the ones that you find on the playground beating up little kids are the easiest to spot. Now-a-days we have become way more sophisticated at this diabolical skill. 
It's a power play, typically directed toward individuals and groups who appear to be easy targets. Often to those who relinquish their own power in submission to overt, thinly masked or tactics immersed entirely in subterfuge.  
We have become very good at the bully game in every area of life:
In our schools.At work.In person.Over the phone.On-line.In relationships.In our communities.In politics.In our culture.Basically anywhere people get together. 
Many believe that by becoming less physically violent, we have grown into a kinder, gentler society...
And to a large degree I believe we have.
And this is a pretty big however.
It hasn't gone away. Bullying is still here and it's a sophisticated and equally toxic game. 
It comes in many forms:

Change the World One Coffee at a Time

With everything that is going on right now many people are feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Some folks feel like they are out there making a difference. Others feel not only less connected with what's going on, but feel less connected with the people around them, including family and friends.
We have to be careful not to get so caught up into the current of things that we set aside our relationships. Be it old or new. Family or friend. Colleague or client. Employee or Employer. 
Entrenching yourself in social media can make you feel less connected and more agitated. It's good to step out of that and get some face to face connection.
Heck, getting together on facetime, skipe or zoom is better than being a keyboard recluse. 
Politics and special interest groups are weighing in heavily right now. There are many people choosing sides, who were once more moderate.
But don't forget the other side of things...
The human side.
The relationship side. 
Connection helps to reduce the gap we…

Don't Complicate This!

I was poised to go down a number of roads regarding all of the happenings of today, but. rather I decided to go down another path...
One of... 
There are a lot of political and special interest group agendas out there right now. They're mixing in with emotions and other causes. So much so, it resembles a swarm of (murder) hornets, they have people confused and afraid of being stung.
This swarm is so thick that even with clarity it's hard to see straight. Like a lighthouse on a really really foggy night. It's still hard see the light that will prevent your ship from crashing on the rocks. 
Organizations hoisting flags and riding on waves of popularity that can conceal other intentions some just off base others intentionally manipulative. 
Which side? 
Both really...
Too bad that many are viewing things from 'this' or 'that' side...
But here we are again!

I've Had Enough!
But, rather than yell louder, I'm going to do what my grandma used to say... (R…

Silence In the Static

1967 Riots in Grand Rapids, MI

I don't need to tell you there's a lot going on right now. 
I've been pretty withdrawn about saying much, not to mention sending any emails out. Like you, I too have felt rather overwhelmed by circumstance lately! 
The last week or so I don't know if I'll be waking up in the late sixties, the great depression or in a sci-fi zombie apocalypse movie...
It's looking like all three! (Bring on the murder hornets! Lol)
No doubt we're all feeling it. I'm sure the pandemic and economic situation that we're going through contributed to the flash point we hit regarding George Floyd's death. 
Our country has been struggling with these issues for a long, long time. 
See, This Is Why...
I have remained silent... 
I have so much running through my head right now, I could literally write for hours... Or not at all.
I hesitate so things can settle a bit before I write something down and hit that send button...
There's enough static out t…

Money Over Life?! Really?

Let me tell you a story about an argument... Ahhh... 'Discussion' I was in with someone a while back regarding a very hot subject...
Now keep in mind that my point wasn't to say that the situation wasn't important or problematic. Nor do I claim to be an authority having all of the answers...
Oh, no, my intent was WAY more devious than that...
My point had to do with human nature, virtue signalling and tactical decision making.* 

Take the Bus?!
The conversation that I want to tell you about deals with someone making a statement about public safety regarding driving on the road.
Here's how it went:
"Why aren't we doing something about people's safety?!"
"Like what?" I said.
"You know?! We should be doing everything we can to keep people safe on the road!" 
(Ok, I thought, I'll play...)
"Do you drive or take the bus to work?" I asked.
"Huh?" She said.
"Do you drive or take public …

The 'Seat Belt Theory' & Risk Aversion

Exploring Risk...
There are a lot of ties to risk and life...
Yes, when it comes to life, no one is getting out of this alive, however that leaves a lot of leeway between here and there...
When it comes to being a protector and dealing with the spectrum of human conflict it's often not a matter of good v. bad, but choosing bad over worse. 
Most people can navigate the former better than the latter. Which makes for a bigger challenge because when it comes to conflict, crisis and violence, there is rarely a perfect outcome... 
Usually more like...
Sucks or Sucks Worse!
And that's hard for folks, especially now-a-days, where we are (or were anyways) used to the idea that we have more control over things than we actually do...
No ladies and gents, things don't always look like the brochure... Sorry!

Helping People Understand...
Often times, people want easy solutions that work out perfectly. As you and I both know (w/conflict) it rarely does. So, how do you get this idea across …