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Money Over Life?! Really?

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Let me tell you a story about an argument... Ahhh... 'Discussion' I was in with someone a while back regarding a very hot subject...
Now keep in mind that my point wasn't to say that the situation wasn't important or problematic. Nor do I claim to be an authority having all of the answers...
Oh, no, my intent was WAY more devious than that...
My point had to do with human nature, virtue signalling and tactical decision making.* 
LET'S BEGIN SHALL WE?!?

Take the Bus?!
The conversation that I want to tell you about deals with someone making a statement about public safety regarding driving on the road.
Here's how it went:
"Why aren't we doing something about people's safety?!"
"Like what?" I said.
"You know?! We should be doing everything we can to keep people safe on the road!" 
(Ok, I thought, I'll play...)
"Do you drive or take the bus to work?" I asked.
"Huh?" She said.
"Do you drive or take public …

The 'Seat Belt Theory' & Risk Aversion

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Exploring Risk...
There are a lot of ties to risk and life...
Yes, when it comes to life, no one is getting out of this alive, however that leaves a lot of leeway between here and there...
When it comes to being a protector and dealing with the spectrum of human conflict it's often not a matter of good v. bad, but choosing bad over worse. 
Most people can navigate the former better than the latter. Which makes for a bigger challenge because when it comes to conflict, crisis and violence, there is rarely a perfect outcome... 
Usually more like...
Sucks or Sucks Worse!
And that's hard for folks, especially now-a-days, where we are (or were anyways) used to the idea that we have more control over things than we actually do...
No ladies and gents, things don't always look like the brochure... Sorry!

Helping People Understand...
Often times, people want easy solutions that work out perfectly. As you and I both know (w/conflict) it rarely does. So, how do you get this idea across …

Learn the Real Secret to a Villain's Advantage

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Villainy?! Here We Go Again...
As you can see, I'm on a Villain kick again! 
What is it this time?
Well, the last email when I wrote about them, I listed a number of attributes that gave them the advantage... 
Well, I was watching one of my favorite movies a few nights ago and it reminded me of something else that those villains do that will give you the advantage too if you know how to harness it! 

Ra's al Ghul?
I know, I know, my tie-in should be one from Star Wars, but it's not, it's from the 2005 movie Batman Begins. 
(If it's any consolation, this scene does remind me a lot of Star Wars.)
Do you remember Ra's al Ghul played by Liam Neeson?
Well, Bruce Wayne (Batman) ends up training under him to learn his Villainous ways of understanding strategy, tactics, influence and mindset. (It wasn't until later that Bruce figures out that good ol'e Raz is actually a Super Villain...)
Regardless, under al Ghul's tutelage, Bruce learns much from him and late…

The Benefits of Procrastination

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Remember what Patrick Swazye's surfer guru character, Bodhi said to Keanu Reeves in the 1991 movie classic, Point Break? 
"Fear causes hesitation, and hesitation will cause your worst fears to come true."
That can be true especially in situations that are critical,m when you don't have the luxury of time on your side.... Like a physical self defense situation or a verbal debate. 
The Power....
But, one thing that hesitation and procrastination does give you is...
Power!
Yes, one of the powers of procrastination is that if you're paying attention, it will tell you that you are either just being lazy... or there is something inside of that waiting, that you are afraid of. 
That's alright, but you may want to lean in and explore that a bit to find out what that is. 
If you can get to the bottom of that, it will give you the opportunity for growth... And that my friend, will bring you into a greater place of power! 
Don't Play Small...
Speaking of hesitation an…

Why Be More Like A Villain?!

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Enter the Scammers...
It didn't take the scammers long to begin taking advantage of the situation. 
Scammers taking advantage of the chaos for their personal or political gain... Scammers taking advantage of the bailout... Scammers calling you to get your personal info... Scammers texting you... Scammers emailing you... Even scammers w/the audacity to knock on your door & talk to you face to face!
Big scammers....
Little scammers...
...and everything in between!
This villainous behavior comes in many forms!
Luckily, most people are honest and just trying to get beyond all of this... even help others who need a hand too!

So what do I mean when I say....

Be More Like a Villain?!
I know, I know, the idea of being a villain DOESN'T sound much like being a protector or PeaceWalker...
Or does it?!
Well, of course I'm not talking about the self centered aspects of their approach or their unethical qualities.
The parts that we can learn from are their creativity, tenacity, inge…

Using F.E.A.R. to Your Advantage

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I was watching a few episodes from the old Alfred Hitchcock Presents series and it made me think...
In case you don't know...
Alfred Hitchcock was an English film director and producer. He is one of the most influential and extensively studied filmmakers in the history of cinema. is most famous being "Psycho".  He had a very unique style which lead to him being known as "the Master of Suspense."
What You Don't See...
Hitchcock's mastery of getting people on the edge of their seats wasn't by what he said or what he showed them... 
He did it by what he DIDN'T SAY or what he DIDN'T SHOW!
That's right, his books and movies, he very cunningly uses space...
The infamous scene, in Psycho, where the gal gets stabbed to death in the shower he never actually shows her getting stabbed! 
The suspense and terror comes from what you DON'T SEE! 
Hitchcock set the stage for your imagination to fill in the details. 
Genius! 

Pandemics, Unrest & th…
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What Defines You?!
Oprah Winfrey has a powerful story that began with abuse, struggle, conflict and numerous failures. 
She had been sexually abused as a child, fired from jobs, told she wasn't suited for television and had many personal and professional setbacks...
However, despite all of that, she rose to the top of all of those set backs. She got up, brushed herself off and got back in the game after getting hit by things life threw at her, which she had no control over. 
Was it tough?
Yes!
But after you get knocked down, you have the choice to stay down, or to get back up...
Like a phoenix, Oprah continued to raise up from the flames that life ignited around her... 
'It Will Do Well...'
In Oprah's early days, back in 1986, when she was just starting her new show, a CBS reporter interviewed her. He asked her how she thought her new show would do? 
Oprah confidently said, "It will do well."
After hearing this, he probed deeper by following her answer with ye…

12 Tips to Staying Healthy During Times of Crisis

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12 Tips to Staying Healthy During Times of Crisis:
In times like these the basics for staying healthy are even more important and unfortunately often overlooked. 
I put together 12 simple tips for you to keep you in the fight!

1) Sleep -  Make sure you get good sleep - 8-ish hours if at all possible. Also, depending on how you deal with stress, don't sleep too much, which is easy to do, due to anxiety. 
2) Drink - I know what you're thinking! But, I mean water silly ;-). Staying hydrated will help you to stay healthy physically, mentally and emotionally.  
3) Eat healthy - Keep your body filled with good calories. Don't eat too much sugar, sodium, caffeine, alcohol, junk or overly processed food. 
4) Take a multi-vitamin every day. Often even in typical times, we don't get the nutrients we need from the foods we eat. In times of stress it's even more important.
5) Hygiene - I know it sounds weird, but in times like these it is easy to forget to do some of the simple thi…

You Can't Just Walk Into MY House

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I hope this finds you well?!
I'm weathering the storm alright so far and I hope you are too?!
Things continue to move forward, but...
Rather than talking about the obvious, (I'm sure that will be the topic of many other correspondence), I thought I'd take a rest from that for a minute to share another story...
If you remember, just before all of this erupted, I was going to tell you a story about one of our PeaceWalker Members who is a process server. 
I figure I'll tell you the story now as a little break from all of our current affairs we  are seeing, reading and listening to.  
So...
Wednesday morning I get a crazy email explaining a situation that nobody hopes to be in...

You Can't Just Walk Into MY House...

HERE'S THE STORY:
So, I wanted to tell you a little about my day. Started off as a usual Wednesday run which I planned on getting through quickly then heading to the gym.  . About halfway through my run I realized I was parked in front of a house that I…

Touching Base

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I hope you, your family and friends, colleagues and community are all hanging in there during all of this.  
So much has transpired for all of us in the past few days, I know everyone is feeling it. Uncertainty, stress, fear of the unknown. 
It's easy for our minds and emotions to begin to take us to some pretty dark places, but...
Hold tight! You got this!
Remember, this is what we've been training for...
~ To be leaders in this time of crisis. 

~ To help everyone be a little safer when we are there.

~ To help people in need know that someone has their back. 

~ And to make sure through this fog of uncertainty, stress, and fear, that where ever we go people are glad we are there... 
So, in everything that you do, by your presence alone, in your own unique way. Help where you can, everything counts!

Managing Your Fears
It is difficult to lead others and inspire confidence when our own fears take a hold of us. 
I know gang, I'm really feeling it too, but don't succumb to you…

Calm Among the Chaos

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Current State of Affairs...
I'll not write anything to further muddy the already murky waters of information about this Corvid-19 situation. I'll only say that you should be paying attention to what's going on, remain vigilant, stay informed, and keep your baseline.
There are some serious things happening that we need to pay attention to on many fronts regarding the safety of our health, economy and society. 
You've heard me say this before, but...
Especially during times of concern (like what's going on currently like): Mass closings, schools shutting down for weeks at a time, stock market crashing, travel advisories, quarantines and the like... 
It's easy to get nervous, spooked and become irrational.
It is important to stay informed with up to date information from credible sources  like the CDC (Center for Disease Control) and local, state and federal authorities. 
There are many people trying to get this situational under control on many fronts, so we can …

The Threats To Be Concerned With

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Two Types of Threats:
When it comes to talking about crime, conflict and violence, there are two simple threat categories: 
Threats from...
1. Strangers. 2. People You Know.

Stranger Danger!
When it comes to staying safe from strangers:
Keep Your Distance& Keep Moving – Don’t let them get too close, stop or redirect you.
Say, ‘NO!’ – If a stranger approaches.
Yell ‘FIRE!’ – If you or someone else is in trouble.
Give Up Your Stuff – If someone has a weapon & wants to rob you.

If Stranger Approaches, or Tries to Stop You...
If you get approached by a stranger or if he tries to stop you...
Don’t let them isolate you! 
Do whatever it takes to NOT get taken down that dark alley, into that vehicle, into that back room… 
Do whatever you have to, to get away. Remember, the really bad stuff happens in secluded places. 
Don’t let them lie to you, threaten you or grab you to get you to go. Your chances get dramatically worse the more isolated you are. 
Attract Attention
Drawing attention to som…

Balance Point & Winning w/Less Effort

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Yep, many people try too hard, but are less effective because they are grinding too much and not giving themselves the space necessary to excel...
So, we just keep trying harder getting less and less results.
You have to...
Get Out of Your Own Way...
This is SO counter-intuitive! So much so that most people will NEVER get it unless someone shows them how to do it! 
Instinctively we believe that by trying harder we'll be more successful...
In (krav) class I see it all the time... 
For instance, doing a take down, you'd think that by trying harder you'll be more successful... 
And to a certain degree you'd be right...
Don't get me wrong, in a physical confrontation, you do have to assert yourself... 
But there are ways to do it that will yield WAY more results w/far less effort... But you have to do it the right way! 
Because when you are facing someone bigger, stronger, more athletic than you, you'll need all the advantages you can get!
Knowing how to accomplish…