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The Two Sides of the Gun Violence Debate

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I was recently asked to be a panelist on a community meeting regarding Gun Violence in Schools. I somewhat reluctantly accepted...
Why?!
Because some of these meetings are healthy and beneficial. Others are just a circus of minefields, agendas, fear, anger and soapboxes. None of which I have any interest in. I will know tomorrow night at the event whether or not I made a wise decision regarding being a part of this event.
DIY v. It Takes a Village
It seems that there are two main ways many people are coming at this "gun violence in schools" issue.
1) This group believes that we need to restrict or ban guns so that dangerous people can't have access to them.
I call these people the "It Takes a Village".
The "It Takes a Village" perspective believes that we as a society shouldn't have the need for the citizens to have access to weapons personally, because "the Tribe" (Society: a.k.a. police and/or military) should / will protect you.So t…

Epic Failure

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Ok, Spoiler Alert!!!!
That title is a bit of a stretch...
A bit of an exaggeration even...
However, it is something that I did that was avoidable even with all of my "Conflict Management" experience...
Do you remember that old adage,
“Praise in public. Criticize in private.”
Well... the EPIC FAILURE I am referring to is regarding that saying...
Here I am a conflict management 'expert' and I didn't abide by this very old and simple rule...
Why?!
Because I'm some jerk?!
NO...
I wasn't really trying to be, I just didn't think the situation was that big of a deal. However, I didn't consider what the other person had into it!The result was hurt feelings, that could probably have avoided had I been thinking more about how the other person would feel about it.
A part of me knew that it might end up being a sensitive issue, yet it didn't register enough for me to act on it... I underestimated their reaction and didn't do what I should have to be…

Why Your Krav Maga Isn't Enough!

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No, that bald guy isn't me... However there is a 'striking' resemblance!


Is Krav Maga Enough!?
You may think this headline is surprising coming from someone (me) who teaches Krav Maga...
Let me explain...
In today's day and age being able to physically defend yourself is a good start, but it isn't enough!!
You have to have more social skills!
I know that may be difficult to believe in an age where we don't seem to interact face to face very well at all!
However, believe it or not, the way we socially interact has become much more complicated.
Just look at how kids interact with their parents now-a-days...
When I was a kid, if I dared to talk back, show the attitude or disobey my parents, it wasn't a long drawn out sparring match of deescalating, negotiating and rationalizing...
Nope, it was a much shorter matter altogether...
It was a simple 3 step process:
(1) Ask (2) Tell (3) Feel the consequences of my decision
Here's how it went... First they…

Reactionary Gap... Is Closer Safer?

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