Thursday, May 31, 2018

The Two Sides of the Gun Violence Debate

I was recently asked to be a panelist on a community meeting regarding Gun Violence in Schools. I somewhat reluctantly accepted...


Because some of these meetings are healthy and beneficial. Others are just a circus of minefields, agendas, fear, anger and soapboxes. None of which I have any interest in. I will know tomorrow night at the event whether or not I made a wise decision regarding being a part of this event.

DIY v. It Takes a Village

It seems that there are two main ways many people are coming at this "gun violence in schools" issue.

1) This group believes that we need to restrict or ban guns so that dangerous people can't have access to them.

I call these people the "It Takes a Village".

The "It Takes a Village" perspective believes that we as a society shouldn't have the need for the citizens to have access to weapons personally, because "the Tribe" (Society: a.k.a. police and/or military) should / will protect you.  So there is no need for the citizens to have such weapon(s). The availability of weapons either makes the problem worse or possibly creates the problem all together.

The second group are the DIY's or Do It Yourselfer's...

2) They think that we need more individual freedom and power to protect ourselves.

This group feels that there are always going to be people doing bad things and the way to solve the issue is to allow / encourage more citizens to protect themselves. They want less organizational control and want the means to "Do It Themselves" so to speak.

One side believes that Less or No Guns will solve the issue, because we are able to fix society enough so we won't need them.

The other side believes that More armed people and continued access to guns is the way to go to address the situation. Because society will always have people who you will have to defend yourself from (sometimes even the government).

My perspective...

I know. I know. I'm Over Simplifying It! But, it does help people to understand the basic premise of the conservative v. liberal leanings. So, Which One Is Right?!!

I don't think either one perspective is completely right. As usual I think the answer lays somewhere in the middle between the two.

I think we need a Peaceful Well Protected Village that is made up of independent, powerful Do It Yourselfers!

As Dr. Robert Humphrey said,

"All the freedom possible with all of the security necessary."

And as I have said,

"It's hard to be peaceful in a violent community."

I believe that we need to strive to make our society as open, loving and safe as we can while preserving individual rights of life, liberty, freedom to the pursuit of happiness.  A difficult balance for sure.  My main point is for us not to lose focus on what we are trying to accomplish. To protect the people in our school. Protect the kids, teachers, staff and visitors from acts of violence.

I know we have different opinions and approaches to accomplish this, and let’s go ahead and discuss, stand up for, vote, advocate and fight for those opinions. But not at the expense of losing sight of our common goal.

To Protect Life!

That is what we have in common... Let's not forget it!

Facebook LIVE! Score!!

Yesterday, I recorded another facebook LIVE on our PeaceWalker Community Group Page. I'm happy to say that this time it went well!

We talked about the 3 States of Communication. If you missed it you can watch it here:

If you're bummed that you didn't catch me LIVE, don't worry, I'll be doing more short trainings like that soon!  I'll let you know when, so you can jump in!

Well, I'll talk to you later!  I hope you are able to take advantage of this awesome day!!

Keep Going,

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Epic Failure

Ok, Spoiler Alert!!!!

That title is a bit of a stretch...

A bit of an exaggeration even...

However, it is something that I did that was avoidable even with all of my "Conflict Management" experience...

Do you remember that old adage,

“Praise in public.
Criticize in private.”

Well... the EPIC FAILURE I am referring to is regarding that saying...

Here I am a conflict management 'expert' and I didn't abide by this very old and simple rule...


Because I'm some jerk?!


I wasn't really trying to be, I just didn't think the situation was that big of a deal. However, I didn't consider what the other person had into it!  The result was hurt feelings, that could probably have avoided had I been thinking more about how the other person would feel about it.

A part of me knew that it might end up being a sensitive issue, yet it didn't register enough for me to act on it...
I underestimated their reaction and didn't do what I should have to be more sensitive about the circumstance...

Needless to say, I feel bad...

So, for all of you out there in PeaceWalker Land...

Here's the Lesson...


“Praise in Public.
Criticize in Private.”

EVEN When YOU Think It's NOT a Big Deal, The OTHER Person MIGHT!!

Join me and other PeaceWalkers on our Facebook Group - PeaceWalker Community.

Here's the link:

Keep going,

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

Why Your Krav Maga Isn't Enough!

No, that bald guy isn't me... However there is a 'striking' resemblance!

Is Krav Maga Enough!?

You may think this headline is surprising coming from someone (me) who teaches Krav Maga...

Let me explain...

In today's day and age being able to physically defend yourself is a good start, but it isn't enough!!

You have to have more social skills!

I know that may be difficult to believe in an age where we don't seem to interact face to face very well at all!

However, believe it or not, the way we socially interact has become much more complicated. 

Just look at how kids interact with their parents now-a-days...

When I was a kid, if I dared to talk back, show the attitude or disobey my parents, it wasn't a long drawn out sparring match of deescalating, negotiating and rationalizing...

Nope, it was a much shorter matter altogether...

It was a simple 3 step process:

(1) Ask
(2) Tell
(3) Feel the consequences of my decision

Here's how it went...
First they'd ask me to do something...

If I didn't do it or whined...

Then they'd...

Tell me to do it...

If I was disrespectful or didn't do as I was told...



Yep, I'd get a solid hand across my rear end.

No long drawn out, drama filled interactions.

It was as simple as...


So, what happened when I got older?

Well, first off, by that time I was conditioned to show respect and do as I was asked, so that took care of most things.

However, the few times I was too old to spank, but too young to know better, it was...


Yep, the old bar of soap in the mouth trick... followed by being grounded!

Once again, no drawn-out drama, it was...


I remember the ONE TIME I lost it and called my mom a b*tch (yea, not proud of that one... but hey, I was 15...).

I knew I was wrong even as the words were leaving my mouth...

The next thing that happened was the feeling of her hand slapping me across my face...

The stern look she gave me would have made Vladimir Putin himself re-think his decision...

I remember keeping eye contact, while fighting back the tears, not wanting her to see me cry...

Immediately after the sting, I thought 'Oh, sh*t what did I just do!?! I hope she doesn't tell dad, because if she does... My @$$ is grass (as they used to say...)!

Now keep in mind that even at 15, I towered over my mom by almost a foot!

Did I say, I knew that I was wrong even as I uttered that blasphemous word!?

Shortly after the altercation and my emotional state subsided, the feelings of remorse and shame came over me. I lost it and calling my mom something like that wasn’t right.

Later I apologized and we made up...

Luckily for me... she never did tell my dad!

I don't tell that story to Justify the Violence...

...for the record I was not beaten as a child (at least not by my parents).

I had a great childhood. My parents were (are) wonderful. They never hit me without cause, nor did they go too far (which I know isn't always the case with every parent out there.).

But, I knew clearly where the line was... and what happened when I crossed it.

Even with all with the problems my brother had, and his violent, off the hook behavior, he knew at a visceral level never to lay a hand on mom. He knew what dad would do to him if he dared!

We had a healthy respect for both our parents. We knew that they were fair, but firm and when they had to bring the disciplinary hammer down, we deserved what was coming. I know that I was blessed with ethical parents who loved me and knew how to separate discipline from just violence.

I also know that not everyone had that same experience with their family...

Oh, How Things Have Changed!

Whether you think things are better or worse...

The ole' 1-2-3 doesn't work that way today! You have to more socially savvy... That means you have to have a different skill set than just learning how to hit and kick.

Today you have to be able to:

(1) Keep a Cool Head (Baseline)
(2) Communicate More Effectively
(3) Have More Strategy... Way more!

Because we go over these in much greater depth in the PeaceWalker Course, and to save time, I'm going to cut some corners here regarding going into too many details on these points...


By keeping your Baseline I mean that you have to be able to stay grounded:

(a)Tactical (in the moment)
(b) Foundational (in your Life)


Because if you can't keep your cool and control your emotions, then you will not be able to control your actions and that will prevent you from acting in the more sophisticated way necessary to effectively manage the full spectrum of conflict.

Effective COMMUNICATION will largely be verbal (or written), supported by body language and facial expressions, and of course actions that reinforce what you say.

Tactical Verbal (and written) Communication will include:
~ Setting Boundaries
~ Persuading
~ Negotiating
And now a-days you have to be BETTER than ever before in order to not end up with a lawsuit or having CPS knocking at your door...


Yes, you have to understand the key elements of Controlling the Engagement.

Control the battlefield so to speak.

Learning how to control the space around an individual (and situation) is not an easy skill to learn. It takes time and persistence to develop the right perspective... To focus on the right things!

Which takes...

The right type of instruction and instructors!

Try reading Miyomoto Mushashi's Book of Five Rings and squeezing out the lessons... You may need someone to help you decipher Mushashi's words before you have any real chance at applying it in any type of a real situation!

So, What Are You Doing to Hone Your Skills?

Maybe you practice your Krav Maga or Physical Martial Arts Skills every week?

What are you doing to learn and hone your skills at Conflict Communications and Strategy?

If you aren't reading books on keeping your cool, verbal communication and how to think strategically, why not start!?

Although there are many books I could recommend, here are three that come to mind regarding our subject(s) today.

(1) Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson (Baseline)
(2) How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere by Larry King (Communication)
(3) The 33 Strategies of War by Robert Greene

They're useful reads to get you going or keep you going on your PeaceWalker Path!

Keep Going,

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Reactionary Gap... Is Closer Safer?

Jeff rocking out his new Krav shirt he got at last weekend's 2.25 Crash Course!

Yesterday, I almost took a pic of me in my shorts, flip flops and Bahamas Hard Rock Cafe' t-shirt.


Because it was sunny here and going up to 80!

...And although today is rainy, it's still warm!

Spring's Here!!

As if things couldn't get better after this weekend's Krav Maga Assault Prevention & Response 'Crash Course'!

People came from all over to train here in GR w/us. Winnipeg, Canada, Texas, Upper State Michigan, and of course locally.

We had a pretty full house of folks who were looking to be introduced to or hone their skills as PeaceWalkers!

Not only did we work on ways of protecting ourselves physically, we also explored awareness skills, and some of the simple 'practical' psychology of how aggressors choose the environment and their targets when it comes to violence and crime.

We also looked at their method of engagement of how they carry out their assaults.

At least one of the folks there training was particularly inspired by these exercises... Possible too much so... but we won't mention any names... TIM! =)

Overall everyone seemed to have a great time learning, connecting and re-calibrating their PeaceWalker Skills and Identity!

 Here's the crew that trained last weekend at the Krav 2.25 Crash Course
Great Job Gang!!

Don't Worry... But You Better Hurry!

Don't worry if you missed the course...

We video recorded the entire seminar!

I'll be posting part 1 up on later this week! 

I'll post each of the other parts as we complete the editing and uploaded process to get them on the site!

Yes, that's right, all 5+ hours of Krav Ma-Rock'n Video Content!!

In order to see it, you have to be a member!

But Hurry...


Because New Registration is Closing Next Week!

Beyond the 6 A's of Safety

If you came to this weekends seminar you know we went over the 6 A's of Safety which are

Avoid Isolation
Attract Attention

Rather then just writing what these things are, you can click on each of the links to my Youtube channel to SEE a short video clip that talks about each strategy.

But this is just the beginning...

Yes, you should continue to explore, implement and understand each of these, but life saving principles. (How's that for dramatic!?)

...and keep learning things beyond these principles  that can help you avoid or respond to conflict and violence...

Such as...
Distance is Time...

During this weekend's seminar one of our new PeaceWalkers hailing from Texas contributed a principle that distance equals time...

And we all know that the better we can control time the better chance we have at managing violence.

Now the assumption is that more space equals more time which equals more safety...

We think things like the (in)famous Reactionary Gap (which is between 21' to 29' depending on what research you are going from).

The drill goes like this:

An officer with his pistol holstered (open carry, external holster. Retention service holster?? Not sure...)  is 21' away from a knife wielding attacker who begins running at full tilt toward the officer.

The officer attempts to draw his weapon and shoot the assailant rushing in.

The research shows that in this scenario you need approximately 21' (to 29' feet) to draw your weapon, fire and disable the threat.

Any closer and the officer typically gets stabbed with the knife.

So from that famous study the legend of the  reactionary gap began and still exists to this day.

However what if I told you that...
Sometimes CLOSER is Safer...

Yea, you read that right...

Sometimes being CLOSER to the threat can give you the advantage to control the engagement more effectively!


Well, there are many ways, but let me illustrate one...

Think of a straight jacket...

You know, the thing that people are put in so they don't hurt themselves or others when they are emotionally out of control and being violent.

Is a straight  jacket more effective if it is tight or loose?

If it is loose. it gives the person being restrained the chance (and momentum) to break free.

So, in this case closer is better.

Let's look at another example...

If you are interacting with someone where it may become violent and you either find yourself or have no choice but to be in close proximity, getting INSIDE the reactionary action/reaction gap may be a better strategy...

But only if you know how to place your arms, legs and body in the right spot to 'Check the Space' so when they move, you (a) have something in place to impede their action and (b) are in a position to 'smother' their efforts... In essence 'beating them to the punch' so to speak.

Here is a video example for you to see me doing this

Keep in mind that this approach is only used in certain circumstances and I am not saying that closer is always better...

However in this example I may be forced to compress / collapse the space and in this case by positioning myself in a very particular way, So I could collapse the attackers space more quickly and effectively when they become aggressive, because of my close proximity. Even when reacting to his initial movement, I can still  'beat him to the punch' so to speak.

Thus making closer safer this time!

And remember that...

Tactical Space Isn't Just Physical

Tactical space is not just physical. It's emotional, psychological, verbal, social, (and MORE!).

Have you ever heard the old saying,

 'Keep your friends closer and your enemies closer."

That can be interpreted a lot of ways, many of which are dubious and unhealthy...

However, let's just look at one way that will illustrate my point of closer sometimes being safer.

If my enemies are close to me I should have better intel as to what they are up to, which can help keep me safe, by knowing what their plans are, so I can prepare for them and not be taken off guard.

If I was more distant from my adversaries I wouldn't know what they are up to and may be taken by surprise, putting me in more jeopardy. 

This is one way of staying safer by being closer.


If you want to understand how to better protect yourself and control the 'Tactical Space' of conflict then don't miss your chance to join us on!

Along with all of the Courses, MasterClasses, Tips, Tricks & Tactics, you'll ALSO get access to the entire 5+ hours of training videos from our last Krav Maga Assault Prevention & Response 2.25 'Crash Course'!!


Don't Miss Out!!

Register NOW!

A Sneak Peek...

Here's a look at how the design on the NEW PeaceWalker Exclusive Pace Setter T-Shirts...

The dots w/hashtag is going on front and the logo w/the saying is going on back.

We're still making more than a few cool changes, but here's the direction it's going.


These shirts are ONLY going out to the 30 or so people who were first on board w/ (you know who you are!).

The rest of you can simmmer in your envy! =) (evil smirk)


We are creating some REALLY COOL SWAG for everyone to enjoy!

Ok, that's all for now...

Have a great week and I'll see you soon!!

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