Wednesday, June 26, 2019

The #1 Question Regarding Conflict!





I'm keeping it short today...  

What's the #1 Question to Ask Yourself regarding Conflict?




Is it How Do You Avoid Conflict? 

Or... Pick Your Battles?

Maybe...

But what happens when conflict is unavoidable?!

Is it How to Always Win?!

As we know sometimes there is no "Winning."

What about, How to Compromise or How to Always Look on the Brighter Side?

Well, let's face it, some things cannot be compromised on and some times the brighter side doesn't do much for dealing with the situation at hand...

So what then? What is THE question?!
What are YOU going to do if things DON'T go the way you want?

That's right...

What's Your 'Plan B?'

You see, it's not so much about focusing on getting your way, as much as it is knowing what YOU are going to to if things go 'South'.

It's easy to get into the habit of trying to force your will, your influence, getting your way...

That's not to say that there's something wrong with getting your way.

But remember, somethings cannot be changed by you, sometimes...

It's MORE about your Plan "B"!


Keep Going!

~Craig



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Wednesday, June 19, 2019

Training Blueprint for People w/No Time



Vintage 1980-81(ish) pic of yours truly training at home...
(Gotta love the red carpet & old school Curtis Mathis Console TV!) 



I hear it all the time...


"I'm really busy! I don't have time to train..."

I know! I know! Life's busy... Career, family, relationships, school, chores, kids, and when you get a second or two... Maybe some sleep!

You feel like you don't have time to train!!

I get it!

So, what's the answer!?

How do YOU fit it all in!?

How can you get all of the stuff done you have to AND get that essential training in too!?

How How HOW?!?

Well...


Here's How You Do It!

To start with you have to do TWO things:

(1) Start Where You're At!
(2) Change Your Perspective.




Just Do IT!

What I mean by this is START where you are and DO IT! NOW!!!! 

Start w/ONE thing! Make it little, something small and manageable.


A Training Blueprint...

Let's use your Krav Maga training (or any other martial arts) for an example.

Day 1: Do ONE THING TODAY that involves practicing something you are working on... It could be doing your 360 degree defense once after you wash your hands in the bathroom...

How long would that take you? 15 or 20 seconds?!

Day 2 - 7: Remember what you did yesterday?! Well... do THAT again! Only today you will practice something for a second or two EVERY TIME you wash your hands today...

WEEK 2: Aside for practicing for a couple seconds after every time you wash your hands, pick one other time during the day to practice something else.


EXAMPLE: Do 5 squats before you sit down and after you get up from watching the TV. 


WEEK 3: In addition to the habit you've been building the last two weeks,dedicate 10 minutes to train on your own 1x this week. (Before Work, As soon as you get home for work. Just before you go to bed. 10 minutes at lunch time).

*If you feel like training longer... go w/it, but promise yourself you'll do one solo training session this week!

WEEK 4: Same as above but make it 15 minutes.

WEEK 5: Same as above but dedicate 2x per week.

WEEK 6: Commit to yourself to raise ONE of those two training sessions to 20 minutes... Only one.

WEEK 7: Change it up a little by doing 3 - 10 minute training sessions on your own this week. (Don't forget that you have the weekends to train as well).

WEEK 8: Find a training buddy. Ask someone who's like you and newer at Krav to get together out side of class to train. Keep it someone about at your level, someone who started about the same time as you. (This can replace one of your solo training sessions).

WEEK 9: Buffer week to find your training partner.

WEEK 10: Set up a day/time to get together with this person weekly to train together


Academy Training...

If you are not currently going to group class, then...

Commit to finding and visiting a class this week!

Then sign up for a program!

Make it a priority!

If you are already going to classes 1x per week...

Then add One More Class this MONTH! (or go to a seminar!)

Or commit to go to class 2x per week...


Make it work for you...


But don't make excuses, because YOU ARE WORTH IT!!

Once you develop a habit out of it you won't NOT be able to do it! You'll feel like your day is lacking something if you DON'T go!


Keep going!
~Craig

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Sunday, June 16, 2019

Instantly Take Down ANY Attacker?!


Matt Page as Master Ken


Can you spot the BIGGEST Defensive Tactics Misconceptions being peddled today?

They come in two forms...

#1- We can turn you into an instant invincible bad a$$. Just buy this course!

They sound like this...

1. Win a fight in 3 seconds flat!

2. Beat any attacker instantly! No matter your size or strength!

3. Learn the secret Death Blow move in a matter of hours and transform your hands into deadly weapons when the time comes to defend yourself in a life or death confrontation.

4. 15 ultra-vicious show stoppers designed to end any confrontation in 4-7 seconds. Simple moves that you can get by watching just once and yet have for the rest of your days.

5. A covert weapon so powerful it can take down any man of any size in an instant. Enough for multiple attackers too. (...Isn't that called a gun?!)

(Yes... sadly these are actual tag lines I just copied and pasted from the web.)

#2 - ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN... FEAR!

The media will spread the doctrine of fear and paint a picture that the world is on the verge of being totally consumed by terrorists, WW3 and the zombie apocalypse.

That every stranger wants to rape, rob or abduct and sell you into slavery...

(Whatever you do... DO NOT GO TO Target or Meijer... Facebook users tend to report that it seems to happen there quite a lot...).

Every cop is a raging racists that will likely shoot you if you're a minority as sure as they'll be at the corner donut shop.

All Muslims and immigrants are criminals, terrorist or people looking to take advantage of our social system.

The largest threat of conflict and violence in your School, Church and workplace is terrorism or an active shooting event...

We could go on and on...

Are some of these issues realistic?

Yes, of course.

Are there real baddies and threats out there?

Absolutely!

Should you train and be prepared?!

YES!

How bad are things really?

Not nearly as bad as our fears, the media and unscrupulous marketers would like us to believe.

Drama sells...

Fear sells...

As does programs that give us relief from those fears!

It's easier to capitalize on people who believe all of the lies and are 'all lathered up,' as my grandpa used to say.

Being Safe Doesn't Mean Losing Your Balance!

Actually, it's about just the opposite!
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A realistic yet well balanced approach.
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Training REAL People for REAL Threats in the REAL World!
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Here's the deal... each week there is a new guru peddling a new tip, trick, or hack on the corner of the Facebook and internet world.
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They all claim to give you some secret sauce that no one else is using for instant Bad A$$ness, invincibility and fixing all your problems.
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NO Hack will solve all your or the world's problems.
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You're NOT going to watch any video or buy any weapon to instantly become invincible... or keep your kids 100% safe.
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The answer is SIMPLE, yet not necessarily easy... If you don't know what to look for.
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But it's an ongoing process...
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It's about developing a Protector's Lifestyle...

Having the Clarity Courage & Skill to deal with the conflicts inside and around of each of us.

We have to continually build on our:

Identity
Attitude
Awareness
Influence &
Actions 

As Protectors!

It's simple, but not easy!

Stick around as we explore more of these things in greater depth to continue to grow and lean in to this idea of being a PeaceWalker.

I'm glad your with us on this journey!

More on this later!                                                                     .


All the best,
~Craig


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Monday, June 3, 2019

Violence Is a Transaction





When it comes to feeling vulnerable in the face of conflict and violence that we have to deal w/today, it's easy to LOSE our FOCUS!

That's right, we begin focusing on the WRONG THINGS!

Rather than focusing on things that will solve the problems, we focus too much on the problem, what we can't do and BLAME!

We can easily begin to look more closely on what we can't do and not enough on the things we CAN! And putting the blame on everything and anything but ourselves!

This builds frustration, which often leads to power struggles.

Why?!

Because in a world of almost limitless possibilities, sometimes it feel like the impossible is possible, even when it's not!

When this happens it is easier to begin to transfer responsibility and begin blaming other people or circumstances as to WHY this 'Perfect Solution' isn't happening.

When it comes to conflict there isn't always a 'Perfect' outcome...

Sucks or sucks worse, as I like to say!

See adversity rather than adversary!

If you can work toward compromise and putting your heads together to come up with a solution, it can be easier to shift the focus on solving the problem.

...Even if it is a potentially violent encounter!


WTF?!?

"What you talking about Willis?!"

How does this work in a potentially violent encounter?


Here's an example:

Someone is robbing you...

You could immediately go into 'physical resolution mode' and try Krav Maga-ing your way out of it (and under some select circumstances that IS an appropriate response... but not many!).

Or... In the 'Sucks or Sucks worse' world of violence, you could inquire what the assailant wants and try to resolve the situation as quickly and non-violently as possible.

SUCKS: Getting robbed!

SUCKS WORSE: Getting killed over your replaceable 'stuff'!!


It's a Transaction...

If someone gets close enough to threaten you w/a potentially lethal weapon, chances are they could have already killed you (or put in some serious effort toward it), so if you're not dead yet, they must WANT SOMETHING from you!

And if this is the case, then they have something to gain or lose by your interaction...

And as the creator of Verbal Judo, Doc Thompson said...

"If they have something to gain or lose, you have something to USE!!"


Stay On Point!!

Now is not the time to be thinking what "should" be happening or how they "shouldn't" be doing this or how this isn't "fair!"

You should be thinking about how you can get out of this as quickly as possible w/as little risk exposure.

The longer this 'Transaction' continues the more of a chance the cost will be higher!

...In some cases MUCH HIGHER!

Yes, every situation is different and the 'Transaction' isn't always the same... For instance an active shooting event or acts of terrorism, the 'Transaction' isn't monetary, like in a robbery, so you can't treat it like one!

NO, all situations cannot be negotiated out of... but MANY CAN BE!


How Do to Know the Difference

In our world of googling life's answers, it may fill you with anxiety to hear this...

Pay attention and listen to your gut...

You'll know!

If you want a little more insight on this read:

The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker
Blink by Malcolm Gladwell

And/or take one of my courses like the Fearless in 5 Day Challenge!


But, don't try to negotiate when it isn't appropriate or 'spring into violent action' when you could've talked your way out of it.

Most conflicts you are likely to run into are ones that involve verbal communication and although have a chance to escalate to a physical assault it is avoidable.

Others are 'violence on contact' type situations... but those are much more rare (thank goodness!).

Have tools to deal with BOTH!

And...

Know how to discern one from the other!


EXAMPLES:


#1 - Some one approaches you, pulls out a gun and threatens you to give them money.

Trying to physically take the gun away probably isn't the best option for surviving this circumstance here...

Rather, under most circumstances, calmly and quickly give them what they want, conclude the 'transaction' and get the heck out of there!

#2 - Same situation as above, but after you give them your money they demand you get in the car or try to take you somewhere...

The transaction just CHANGED! It is no longer only about money. You need to rethink your strategy here...

(A bit more of a sophisticated response... one that requires a email/blog itself... we also discuss this situation at length in some of our training's.)

#3 - You hear gunshots, than see someone walking toward you after just shooting multiple people (Active Shooting Event).

Most likely for your own survival, IMMEDIATE PHYSICAL ACTION is required... (Run, Hide, Fight).

#4 - Physical Example:




Keep Going,
~Craig


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