Thursday, June 30, 2016

What You Think You Know

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. She answered the call asap, changed her clothes and went directly to the operating room.  She found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.

Upon seeing her, the father yelled, “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled and said, “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came as fast as I could after receiving the call and now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”.

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies while waiting for doctor than what will you do??” said the father angrily.

The doctor smiled again and replied, “We will do our best. Please pray for your son’s healthy life”.

“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.

The surgery took a few hours, after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank goodness! Your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply she carried on her way running by saying, “If you have any questions, ask the nurse”.

“Why is she so arrogant? She couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down his face, “Her son died yesterday in an accident; she was at the funeral when we called her for your son’s surgery.  And now that she saved your son’s life, she left running to finish her son’s burial.”


Wednesday, June 29, 2016

The Crow and Peacock

A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.”
He expressed his thoughts to the swan. “Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.” The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I lived a very happy life until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors.”

The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”

The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”

~Ancient Folk Story

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Follow Through

Following through with what you set out to do is imperative to your success in life. Conversely, learning when it is alright to stop and cut your losses is equally important.

What brought this up? I'm glad you asked.

I was thinking about blog posts today and the idea of follow through came to mind. Beginning in 2014 I committed to posting four (4) blog entries per month. I began blogging in 2008 and have remained "fairly consistent" in my posts ranging from 19 to 54 posts per year so far. My lightest year was 2011 I had an average of 1.5 per month. Bear in mind that I didn't blog every month in that year. Some months I had several posts and other months there was a complete absence of any writing whatsoever.

Blogging 4x/per month may not sound like much, but it seemed to be a huge commitment to me. Even if I didn't actually write the article myself, posting four times each and every month seemed like a big step.

Before I decided to make that commitment, I had to ask myself, "Why do I want to do this in the first place?" Were my reasons for wanting to tackle the challenge clear to me? In this case they were, I wanted to continue to build and stay connected to the community that I was creating.  As well, I wanted to continue to share my thoughts and practice my writing skills.

It was easy for me to get intimidated about committing to four blog entries per week. Especially when I look at people like Seth Godin who blogged every single mofo'n day. Everyday. Evvvveeerrryyydddaaaaaay. E-V-E-R-Y-D-A-Y!!

And to add insult to injury, he shares really cool, insightful things, which later he often turns into books.

My fear is that I haven't gotten to the point where I can offer up a great or even good idea each and everyday. I know that it isn't that I don't have good ideas, because I do have some pretty insightful things to share. Much of it is that I have to be in that creative place where the ideas flow from me in a clear way that is understandable. Some days I'm on, others, not so much.

"The hardest thing about writing is writing." 
~Nora Ephron

I've noticed that the more consistently I wrote, the more often those good ideas came and the more clearly I could articulate them. If I waited until I "felt" like writing, I wouldn't write very often at all. BTW, this principle applies to pretty much anything. For example if I waited until I was in the mood to workout I would probably workout once every other week if I was ambitious. Rather, I discipline myself to commit to creating a habit of working out. I get better results overall, even though every single workout may not be stellar.

The concept is simple:

  1. Be mindful on what you commit to. 
  2. If you make a commitment, follow through with it.
  3. Create a habit that supports your goals. (Refer to #1!)
  4. Know what is alright to "bail out" on. (Make sure the juice is worth the squeeze! Also, refer to #1)
There is my thought of the day!

Two down, two to go for this month!

Keep going,

Thursday, June 2, 2016

The Conflict Managment Quiz

1.Yes or No [pick one] - I would prefer to be treated respectfully & with dignity.

2. I would rather be (A) Asked (B) Told [choose one] what to do.

3.  True or False [pick one] - I would like to be told the reason why I should do something.

4. I would rather be given (A) Choices (B) Threats [pick one].

5. True or False [pick one] - When I make a mistake I like to be given a second chance.

6. I feel (A) Disrespected (B) Respected [pick one] when someone really listens to what I have to say.

7. I deal better with (A) Certainty (B) Confusion [choose one].

If you answered:

1. Yes
2. A
3. True
4. A
5. True
6. B
7. A

Than congratulations you are like the majority of the people that you'll run into.

So, if you want to have a better chance of persuading someone during a disagreement, follow these 7 things and you'll be well on your way to resolving the challenge you face. If this is not working, than you are getting the data that you need to determine if you need a "Plan B" to manage the situation.

Be a part of the solution not the problem!

Simple Not Easy:

  • Treat people's life value with respect and dignity. 
  • Ask rather than tell people what to do.
  • Present choices rather than threats.
  • Give people a second chance to come around and save face.
  • Listen.
  • Communicate clear, fair boundaries that point to most good / least harm.  
  • Have a "Plan B" if whatever you are attempting isn't working.

There you have it, my thought of the day!