Tuesday, October 15, 2019

Alone & Outnumbered (part 2)





October... one of my favorite months!

Because I didn't want my last blog to be too long, I didn't tell you the rest of the story of my jogging incident...

(I know right?! I wish I was making this stuff up!)

If you didn't read the first part of this story, go back to my Sept. 26th email to read part one. (If you're new to these emails, no worries, I'll be posting part one in next weeks blog next week.)

So...


I Get Passed the Troubled Youth


I can hear their voices fading in the background, which reinforced to me that they in fact were just blowing some adolescent smoke.

...It may have been a different story had I stopped and fully engaged them.


My Sigh of Relief Only Lasted a Second...

Still jazzed up and prepared for a confrontation, I came around the next bend to see a white pickup truck in front of the train trestle that I have to cross to get to the other side of the creek.

When I saw the white pick up truck and the guy wearing the reflective vest, I figured they were from the construction company that had been there a few weeks ago digging a new drainage ditch. 

I sighed a breath of relief thinking that I have some back up if those kids came around for some trouble...

And I'd be wrong...


From the Frying Pan to the Fire!


You ever see one of those low budget horror movies where just after the character narrowly escapes being taken out?!

You know, they see help... 

Relax...

Then...

WHAM!!

Just when you thought was safe, something bad or worse happens!?

Well, it was kinda like that...


No Place to Go...


Picture this...

I'm about 2 3/4 miles into my run... Alone, in the woods... Down a trail... 1/2 mile from anyone who could help me... Just about got into a physical altercation w/4 guys... They're still behind me, so I can't go back... Trees and more woods on either side of me... A truck in front of me is blocking the only bridge that crosses the creek to continue not only my run, but to the closest way to safety...

Initially, as I said, I thought that truck and the two guys were construction or rail way workers...

But...

As I get closer and start going around the truck, I see that these are NOT construction workers...

Rather they look like a couple guys fishing...

No big deal, right?!...

Wrong again...


There were two of them...


One wore filthy gray sweat pants and a Poison concert shirt that looked like it hadn't been changed since their first album came out in 86'.

The other had a construction style reflective vest. He was missing all of his front teeth and looked haggard and worse for wear.


If Looks Could Kill...


The guy w/the sweat pants looked at me suspiciously and aggressively... With disdain, dislike, even hate in his eye... A 'Who the f*ck are you, and what the h*ll are you doing here look on his face...

I don't know if things went from bad to worse... but one thing was for sure, I wasn't outta this mess yet...


(Jesus.... Really!? I thought... I'm just trying to get my workout in gang!)

"You Run'n?" Sweatpants asked me with edgy tone and look of complete contempt on his sour face.

I thought...

No wise ass... what's your first clue?! My running shoes, drenched shirt, sweaty bald head, or hard breathing?  Of course I'm f*n running...

But, that's not what I said...

"Yea, getting a jog in... You guys fishing?" I responded with a bit more of a sarcastic edge than I had intended.

"I used to fish down here when I was a kid...' Catching myself and trying to lighten the moment.

The reflective Vest man seemed way more jovial. And asked if I ever got any? (Fish).

I said that I would rarely get anything, but that was a long time ago...


They Looked Suspicious...


Something was up...

These two looked suspicious...

One was too jovial, the other too ornery...

I think they thought I was a cop or DNR, checking out what they were up too.

I'm convinced that they were up to something illegal. Either drugs, illegal fishing... a warrant out on one or both of them... Something...

Who knows, maybe it had something to do w/those kids?

I don't know, but either way, I wasn't going to stick around to find out...
 

His Hand Went Toward His Waist...

As I was making my way around the truck, Mr. Sweat Pants hand went toward his waistline...

I thought...

Oh, f*ck... Here we go!

I was about 8 feet from him...

Too far away from him to get a hold of him...

Yet close enough to be an easy target if he had a gun...


My Breath Caught in My Throat...

I was ready to do what I could...

But luckily he seemed to just be tucking in his shirt. (It didn't look like he was indexing a weapon...)

Maybe I was just being overly paranoid because of my last incident w/those kids?

I don't know, but I kept moving passed them regardless...

I yelled back over my shoulder, wishing them good luck and crossed that bridge the fastest I ever had.

Before long I was back out on the main road reflecting on the couple strange and dangerous encounters I just had.

As long as I've been running this route I've never had very many problems... let alone two incidents in a row like this. 

I couldn't get home fast enough...

I had enough 'adventures' for today!

Maybe It's time to rethink my running route?!


Keep going,
~Craig



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Tuesday, October 8, 2019

Bjj Would've Been Suicide!





For decades I've been running the same trails by the Krav Academy w/relatively no incidents, so I figured yesterday would be like every other day...

Not quite...

About two and a half miles in to my run...


I Noticed 4 Guys Walking...


They were young, I'd say high school...

I could tell the leader, he was the one out in front of the other two smoking a cigarette.

Big kid, a bit taller than me and filling his white t-shirt w/an athletic build. The guys that trailed slightly behind him were a little smaller than me and looked subordinate to the guy leading the pack.

In all the years I've been running that trail, I rarely run into anyone let alone trouble...

Once in a while I'll see a vagrant, fisherman or fellow runner, but typically my biggest worry is dogs. (Last year I was bit by someones little yapper... but that's another story for another day...).

So, as I got closer, I do what I always do; give'em a wide berth, try not to look exhausted, look at them in the eye and say, "How's it going Gentlemen?"


At First There Was No Problem...


A couple of the guys shyly said "hi"...

But, as I pass White Shirt, he lets out a plume of smoke, sneers and with a mean spirited laugh says,

"Want a cigarette?"

Had I been quicker on my feet, I might have had a witty, but disarming comeback, but I didn't, so I just kept running.

I didn't get but a few yards from them when the smack talk & threats come...

"F*ck you!"

F*cking a**hole!

"We're going to F*cking kick your a**."

"F*cking pussy!"


Tired, 1/2 Mile from Any Help & 4 on 1...


Now, I've had my fair share of run ins, so I had a good idea this was just a bunch of adolescent monkey dancing, but...

There were four of them...

They were young...

And Big...

I was tired...

And a half mile from the main road...

I didn't have my gun...

And I didn't want trouble...


The Adrenaline Kicked In...


When I jog, I pay attention, no earbuds...

Anytime I see or hear someone when I'm out running, I'm alert...

But as soon as I came on these guys and saw White Shirt my adrenal glands gave me an 'extra boost'.

My mind went to a few scenarios of 'what to do'...

Plan 'A'...
Plan 'B'...
Plan 'C'...


Could I make it to safety?

...Unlikely, if they decided to run after me. They were younger, the big one was most likely stronger... regardless they were fresh and less than half my age... And I was tired!

Taking on four guys is a recipe for ER or worse...

This is not a time to grapple with them figuratively or literally...

If they stopped me and deescalation didn't work what options did I have?!

My gun!?

Nope, I wasn't carrying...

Krav?!

Improvised weapons?!

Yes, I had my knife on me, but really didn't want to have to use it...

However, I know how the mob mentality could go from bullying, to assault, to worse pretty easily.

Things could get UGLY!

I wasn't looking to see how any of that would go, but I knew...


This Could Go South Fast...


WTH ~ Feels like I'm in 8th grade again facing a group of high school bullies...

But I'm 49 years old and this isn't grade school!

Luckily (and pretty predictably), I kept running, they kept yelling, the space between us got wider and nothing more came of it.

I was ready because you never know what could happen...

I was grateful for my training, because it gave me options, clarity & confidence...

But also the dose of level headed-ness that is necessary to keep yourself out of trouble...

And maybe even a snowball's chance in h*ll of surviving the violence that sometimes become unavoidable...


When Nice Isn't Enough...


Many people believe that being nice and respectful is enough to get you out of any situation...

They'd be WRONG!

Yes, its a good place to start, but you need more!

You need to be able to take care of yourself in situations like these (and others), when it comes to dealing with the spectrum of human conflict!


I Call It Being a PeaceWalker...


PeaceWalkers are everyday people who train to protect the Life of self & others. We belong to a unique fellowship of individuals who have the clarity, courage & skill to effectively deal with the wide spectrum of human conflict. We are motivated by Life & Love more so than fear & hate. PeaceWalkers lead from the front and dedicate ourselves to personal growth and constant training in pursuit of being a protector. We are capable of great empathy, diplomacy and as a last resort, violence for the purpose of protecting the Value of Life. We have the resolve and ability to do most good, least harm for all as we embrace our will to Live, Protect & Inspire.

Don't Just Take My Word For It...

Hear what  other Top Security Experts, Soldiers and Military Veterans have to say about how to be a better Protector and building a Lifestyle that will help you in everything you do!

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Have a great day!


Keep Going,
~Craig

Tuesday, October 1, 2019

Why is a Protector's Hoop is So Important?!


2019 Buyu Camp - NJ USA

Back from Jersey...

Good weekend of training out at Jack Hoban's Buyu Camp.

WTH is Buyu Camp?

It's a camp where people come to train and re-activate their Protector Identity, as they practice a modern adaptation of an ancient Japanese martial art called Budo Taijutsu.

Some are professional protectors and many run training groups of their own. Regardless, we are all protectors and come together to create what Jack calls a 'Hoop'. 

A 'Hoop' is a Sioux tradition that inspired him when he read about it in a book called Hanta Yo.

A 'Hoop' is a yearly event when numerous smaller tribal groups come together for a few days. They congeal into one larger group for a short time for the purpose of  exchange knowledge and reconnecting. Afterward, they disperse and go back to their own respective territories and lives.

Jack relates this yearly Buyu Camp Event to that ancient Hoop, where training groups come from all over to practice and stay connected. This realignment with not only the bigger group, but even more important realign with the larger overall picture of being protectors.

It's a great time...


Why Should You Connect?


One of the leading causes of mental & physical health issues is feeling isolated from others and from the inspiration of the Bigger Picture.

Your mom always told you to be careful of the friends you keep!

If you want to be a better protector... Stay connected with other protectors!

Here's why...

If you want to feel safe, healthy and successful, in everything from your personal to your professional Life, being a protector... a PeaceWalker, is going to help you in EVERYTHING you do.


You don't even have to get the info and connection here...  But you need to find it someplace! Learn how to deal with conflict and violence so you can not only protect yourself, family and community. Dial your skills in so you know what to do when 'It' hits the fan!

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Keep going,
~Craig

Tuesday, September 17, 2019

Is Your Training Is Based On Superstition?





Is your training based on superstition?!


A great question that can get a little tricky in a few ways...

#1 - If you train for the wrong things, you won't be prepared for when the 'real deal' happens. (Leaving you vulnerable).

#2 - If you constantly immerse yourself in and around people and ideas that are a bit off, you can begin to 'drink the kool-aide' and begin believing it yourself. You can even begin creating that skewed world around you!

#3 - There is only so much available time to train... If you want to be able to protect yourself and others better. Prioritizing your training and focusing on the right things is not just a suggestion... it's ESSENTIAL!


"Reality" Based Training...


If you train in Defensive Tactics, Martial Arts or Tactical Firearms, you hear this term "Reality Based Training" all the time.

Which for many means...

~ Focus on low probability, worst case scenarios.

~ Go Hard and Fast... The Harder & Faster the better!

~ Do things that 'feel good' to train... Things that feed your ego and/or 
    physically... Things that give you some sense of accomplishment control &
    'winning.' (Not that that's all bad)

~ Train things that support your bias or reality.

~ Oversimplify and focus on the wrong part of the situation. (Usually where the 
    'action' is!)

~ Ignore critical details that entail all of the elements of the situation...       
    (Everything that lead up to it and the 'aftermath.')


What 'Real' Life Looks Like...


Well... That can depend a lot on you!

Think about the differences of what your life might look like if...

  • You're on a SWAT Team
  • You were a criminal
  • You are a teacher
  • You run a business
  • You were a street cop
  • You're in sales
  • Correctional officer
  • In executive protection
  • Parent of a teenager
  • Hang out a bars after hours a lot
  • Club security
  • A production worker
  • You live in a high crime area
  • You live in a gated community
  • Etc.


The types of common situations you're likely run across and how you would go about handling them would be different depending on who you are, what you do for a living and where you normally frequent.

Don't get me wrong, it's fun to pretend you are on SEAL Team 6, go strap on some tac gear, grab your guns, go to a shoot house and play...

There is nothing wrong with going down to your local karate studio to train some kata, MMA gym to go a few rounds in the cage, or roll around grappling last years bjj champion.

But how much is any of that really going to help you?

Does the conflict and violence you run into look like that really?!

Maybe...

Sometimes...

However, there are also a LOT MORE elements to dealing with conflict and violence that DON'T LOOK LIKE THAT!

Are you training to deal with the spectrum of human conflict!? From keeping a cool head, awareness, avoidance, verbal communication, positioning, force options, handling the aftermath? Medical? Legal? Emotional? Ethical?

AND...

Are you prioritizing your training in the right proportion to focus on the entire situation...

Prevention and a scale-able response... A force continuum, etc.

Or... Is your approach based on...

A Bunch of Superstition?!

I'm with you...

I kinda wish things did look more like a Bond movie or John Wick, where the baddies were easy to identify; the 'white rape van' was responsible for all of the sexual assaults; my pistol solved the problem, the threat was clear cut and everyone knew their place...

Who doesn't want to feel like you're in control, confident, powerful, respected?!

But creating training that is only 'Action Oriented', based on superstition or a skewed reality, just leaves you MORE VULNERABLE and what's worse is that most don't even know it!

They think they're prepared, when really they're part of their own problem.

It's alright to go out and have fun with your hobbies at the range, in the dojo and ring...

But remember...

REAL LIFE DOESN'T [USUALLY] LOOK LIKE AN ACTION MOVIE!

SO...

Are you training to build a Protector's Lifestyle?

Where you are developing skills that will help keep you and others around you safe from the gamete of human conflict that occurs.

We may have a lot of differences, but one thing remains consistent...

We ALL have to deal w/people, and with people comes...

CONFLICT!

And with conflict comes...

VIOLENCE!

So, the better you can handle the full spectrum of human conflict and violence (beginning inside of yourself), the safer you and yours will be and the better you will be able to navigate Life!


Keep going,
~Craig


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Wednesday, September 11, 2019

9/11 What We Lost, Then Lost Again




I remember walking into the production area at the printing company I was working for at the time.

"What you watching?" I naively asked.

"A plane just hit one of the towers of the World Trade Center in New York."

"Do they know what happened?" I asked thinking it was just some tragic miscalculation or plane malfunction.

Within minutes, all of our doubts were cast aside as the second plane collided, then exploded into the second tower. 

It was now clear regarding the nature of what the explosions were....

An attack and act of war on the United States... On US!

I can still remember the confusion...

The fear...

The concern...

The anger...

Our world as Americans would never be the same again...


9/11 First Responders...

I have a handful of friends who were there. Police, Military, Firefighters, EMT  and Construction Workers.

My heart goes out to all of the victims and their families. My admiration goes out to all who were there, professional or not who not only survived, but chose to protect others in a great time of need.

Even though the event was tragic for us as people and a nation...

It was awe inspiring to see all of us set down our relative differences and join together as ONE...

It's too bad that it often takes something of magnitude for us to see past what separates us for what joins us.

As Protectors!


Flight 77, 93 & the Pentagon...


When we think of  9/11 we often just think of the World Trade Center...

Often the attack that occurred on the Pentagon is overlooked.

As are flights 93 & 77...

Flight 93 was brought down by the heroic passengers before hitting its intended target.

Unfortunately, flight 77 successfully struck the Pentagon, killing 184 people and injuring many others.


I Hope It Doesn't Take Another...


Event like 9/11 to bring us together as a Nation and as people...

Please, take a minute to remember those we lost and those who protected...

Let's not wait until the next tragedy to connect as a Nation of Protectors and as Human Beings!

Set the pace and...



Keep going,
~Craig




Don't Miss October's On-Line Protector Summit where you'll hear from Lt. Col. Steven Bucci who tells his story of being in the Pentagon as Donald Rumsfeld Military Assistant at the time of the 9/11 terrorist attack: www.theprotectorsummit.com 

Tuesday, September 10, 2019

Kill Your 'Worry Hamster'





I woke up about 4:30am anxious...

You ever do that?

Seems I was worried about all if it!

My bills...
My finances (to actually pay my bills!)...
My travels...
Getting this Summit registration launched...
The academy...
The price of real estate...
If I somehow pissed somebody off...
Why one of my fb posts didn't get enough 'likes'...
My future...
Global warming....

Stooooooooooooooop Already!

I don't know where that all came from, but I know it didn't stem from any one of those things specifically!

The Worry Hamster in my head just went wild in his little wheel...

Around and around.... and around... and around!


Here's the Question...

When you're in a state like that how do you think you deal with conflict?

Better or worse?

Of course you know the answer!

If you let that Worry Hamster rule you you're not only going to be a wreck...

You're probably going to wreck anything in your path too!

How would you like to pulled over by a cop in this state!?

No thanks!


How to Get a Grip...


Oh, yes, for reasons unknown to me I had slipped out of Baseline...

Although I had an idea, I didn't know exactly why.

Now if it had been One Thing Bothering me, it may have been that that was it. Fix that problem and voila, problem solved, anxiety reduced!

However... When there is a laundry list of things, that's an indication that there's something else going on.

I realize that there can be levels of this type of anxiety that may be deeper issues, but in this case I believe it stemmed from some work stress of deadlines and a couple 'random' things happening beyond my control that although were simple things, they started the wheels turning, so to speak.


It Begins w/a Choice...

Once you realize you are in this state, you have TWO CHOICES...

1) Keep spinning.
2) Realize you're spinning and do things to STOP Spinning!

Option #2 might look something like this:

STOP!! Slow your mind down by taking a few breaths and relax. Don't think of anything... Least of all solutions... This often just keeps your mind reeling, trying to figure things out, but what usually happens, it's a TRAP that our minds use to keep us stuck going in circles, not really coming to any healthy conclusions... rather, only more spinning and anxiety!

Remember that the negative things are typically much Bigger in Your Mind!

If things get really extreme, you'll need something more to change your state. Exercising, going for a walk, stretching, even changing locations may help.

Do something where you aren't thinking about the problems (or solutions) for a while.

Grounding yourself in THIS MOMENT via Your Own Body, can help.

Like this:

Take a deep breath and try to focus your attention of the feel of the carpet beneath your feet, or the feel of how your clothes touch your body. Start at your feet (keep breathing...) and work up slowly to your head. Then take a few more deep 'belly' breaths to conclude the grounding.

No, the problems probably didn't go anywhere, but most likely they look a bit different!

When has life put something in front of you that you weren't able to get through!?

If you're alive (you're reading this right?!) it worked out!


Manage Your Anxiety...

The better you are able to manage this wonderful mind & body of yours the easier it will be to manage those conflicts you come across.

It's difficult, if not impossible to have a chance at controlling a situation if you can't even control yourself


If You Want to Find Out...

About that Summit I was stressing about...


Have a great Hamster Free Day!!



All the best,
~Craig



Tuesday, September 3, 2019

The Cat's Outta the Bag!




Almost a year ago I decided to put together what I'll call an On-Line 'Protector Summit'.



It's a FREE LIVE On-Line Event where I interview over 20 of my military / veteran friends & colleagues, asking them what it is to live a Protector's Lifestyle. 

We talk and they share their thoughts about the following discussion topics:


1) What are the 3 Biggest Pieces of Advice You'd Give Someone Who Wants to Protect Themselves, Their Family & Community Better in Today's World?

2) Share Your Experience of Transitioning Your Identity from Being a Protector as a Soldier to One as a Civilian.
 

3) What Can We Do to Bridge the Gap Between Our Military/Vet & Civilian Communities?


WHEN: 

Thurs, Oct. 17th - 10am to 6pm EST
Fri, Oct. 18th - 10am to 6pm EST
Sat, Oct. 19th - 10am to 6pm EST


WHERE:

It's On-Line, so you can watch or listen to it on your phone or computer from the comfort of your own home, office, car or coffee shop! And also, you can come & go as you please! 


Is It FREE?!

YES! The Live On-Line Summit is Absolutely FREE! All you have to do is Register at this link: www.theprotectorsummit.com with your email address & I'll email You Confirmation & the Private Link.


If you know anyone who you think would be interested in the summit, please forward the link to them!


Help Spread the Word!

Please, Share the Link on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and any other social media sites your on.


In the Meantime...

Have a great day and I'll see you soon!



All the best,
~Craig

Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Your Mom Was Right





The idea of being in tribe and part of a community reminds me of the discussion we got in on our last LIVE MasterClass Q & A Coaching Call when we talked about the affect of community on performance and being a protector...

Can Being a Part of a Community Help You Perform Better?!

In a word, YES!

You don't necessarily need the research of the effects of community when it comes to performance... You can FEEL it yourself!

However, there has been a fair amount of research on how community can effect our performance.

Malcolm Gladwell's Book, Outliers  has an interesting chapter where he shares research that ties longevity to community. He talks about how the citizens of Roseto, PA, “created a powerful, protective social structure capable of insulating them from the pressures of the modern world."


What Did Your Mom Tell You!?

"Be careful of who your friends are!"


What did the business / success coaches say?


"Show me your Friends and I'll show you your future."


Pick Your Tribe...


It doesn't matter what you want to do... 

If you want to lose weight... Hang out w/people who are losing weight!

If you want to get in shape... Hang out w/people who are getting in shape!

If you want to learn how to fight... Hang out w/fighters!

If you want to Live a Protector's Lifestyle... Hang out w/Protectors!

If you want to be a martial artist... Hang out w/them!

If you want to be successful... Hang out w/people who are! 


What If You Can't Find a Tribe?


Now-a-Days, because of the internet, it is much easier to find a community of people for pretty much anything...

However, if you can't find your flavor... Then...MAKE YOUR OWN COMMUNITY!!

In our case, make...


A Community of Protectors!


That's what THIS Community is all about!

Although I had many requests to create a(nother) martial arts, Krav Maga and/or defensive tactics organization...

I didn't want to!

We have Too Many Already!! We don't need another one!  However, I wanted to...


Create Something Unique...


And even MORE BENEFICIAL!

Drilling down to the CORE of what people said they were looking for when they sought to defend 'themselves', be it with their hands, their words or w/weapons!

That's the reason for THIS COMMUNITY!!

The idea is to join us together as ONE Tribe of People who feel that calling of their Deepest Identity!

That of a Protector...

Bring them Together. Help them Clarify. Share Skills. Build a Community...


Start a MOVEMENT!!


BTW...

If you're reading this...

YOU are a part of it too!

So...



Keep Going,
~Craig


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Wednesday, August 21, 2019

What Now?!





Have you ever been on the other side of some BIG life changing event, accomplishment, trauma, ordeal?

Doesn't matter if it was good or bad, the emotional, fallout afterward can be challenging to deal with.

Maybe you just had the biggest sales year ever in your career... You just got back from the award ceremony... Monday rolls around and there are your NEW sales figures sitting on your desk.

Possibly you spent the last 6 1/2 years in Krav Maga, going to class 3x/per week, training on your own, going to every seminar and training on your own in pursuit for that coveted 'Black Belt.' Then
FINALLY the day comes! It's your turn! And You ROCK IT! The belt gets strapped around your waist and the BMF wallet goes in your pocket...

You wake up sore, revealed and Proud!

And you should be...

...But, now what?


There are many events in Life like this...

  • Maybe you just got out of the service or home after deployment...
  • You just retired from working 40 years at your career...
  • You just got back from your honeymoon... or the opposite, your divorce just got finalized...
  • Your last kid finally leaves the house & now it's just you & your spouse again...
  • You just got cleared of cancer...
  • You come home after the funeral of your husband/wife, mom/dad or best friend and the release of  what really happened hits you...

  
Then What...


There's a void there, the trough of the wave, the ebb that naturally comes after the flow of life... Especially those times that are filled w/a lot of emotion.

There is an old Zen proverb about chop wood / carry water...

Before enlightenment: Chop Wood / Carry Water... After enlightenment: Chop Wood / Carry Water...

Yes... Yet, another term for Keep Going.

You can find that the everyday things are both necessary as well as comforting if you have the right perspective.

The successful sales person goes on selling...

The protector continues to train until they are called to protect once more...

Life continues to move and if you want to find a sense of peace you have to keep moving too!

Take a minute to celebrate, mourn, reflect, relax, appreciate, recover, rest, learn, whatever you need to do...

Then... 

Chop Wood / Carry Water...

A.K.A. KEEP GOING!



~Craig



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Monday, August 12, 2019

5 Steps To Transcend Your Training




When it comes to how to train for the "Reality" of conflict & violence...


Most People Are Wrong!


So, how do you take your training in whatever you do and transcend that training in order to apply it to real life situations?

What most people think is totally wrong!

Harder training DOESN'T necessarily mean that it is BETTER Training! Nor, does 'thin slicing' and isolating a skill set to the point that you over focus on the complexity of that skill so much so that you disconnect with how it will be used outside of the environment that you are training or competing in.

Take shooting... or rather Marksmanship. Basically, putting that bullet down range and hitting the bulls eye of your target.

You can become a very good competitive 'bench shooter' and out shoot the best of 'em, but then under real conditions of a life encounter where you are carrying concealed, and something occurs where you believe you may need to use your firearm to protect the Life of yourself or someone else.

You quickly realize that it is a totally different situation that requires different conditioning and many many more skills than all of those hours and competitions afforded you on the range. That's not to say that being skilled at certain specific things is bad, wrong or a waste of time, however it may not be as useful as you may believe. Many of these things are not as intuitive as one might expect.


My Now [In]Famous Example...


Take my Lifeguard v. Olympic example...

When you think of a lifeguard, most think of swimming...

Just like when you think about self defense the first thing that usually comes to mind is learning how to fight, right?!

And there's where the problems begin!

That thought already begins to "Thin Slice" and isolate a skill & performance expectation that can lead to misconceptions...

Being the 'Best' Swimmer (a.k.a. Gold Medalist Michael Phelps) makes you the 'Best' lifeguard...

So killing myself to be the best swimmer will equate to me being able to be a better lifeguard and save lives more effectively... Right?!

Or in the world of being a better protector:

Learning to be the 'Best' fighter is going to equate to protecting myself and others better?

NO IT'S NOT!!!!

Yes, you have to be a strong swimmer in order to be a life guard... And yes, having the confidence that you can 'throw down' can help you to protect yourself, but there's MUCH MORE TO IT THAN THAT!


Look At the Context...

The CONTEXT of being a lifeguard is different than that of a swimmer trying to win the Olympic gold.

Being a lifeguard requires a broad skill set to be effective. ONE of those things is being a strong swimmer, not to be confused w/having to be the best or fastest swimmer!

Here's a short list of skills (very short):

- Swim
- Swim while protecting someone
- Communication skills (speaking, listening, presence)
- Conflict Management skills
- Leadership skills
- First Aid & CPR skills
- Ability to read weather & water conditions
- Operate watercraft & flotation devises
- Directional and navigation skills
- Critical & creative thinking skills
- Staying fit to serve
- Diet and hydration knowledge
- Ability to be on a team
- An understanding of the laws and policies of the position
- Ability to fill out proper documentation
- Ability to use communication device (phone, radio, etc)


What About Protector's?!


You want to learn how to be the best fighter?! In what? MMA? Boxing? BJJ? Submission Wresteling? Thai Boxing? Stick or Knife Fighting? HEMA Short Sword Fighting? Russian Combat Sambo? Shootfighting?

Will being the best in any of those things make you a better protector?

Maybe... Some things would certainly transfer, but if you are trying to learn how to protect yourself and others from Human Conflict and Violence, you have to look at the right picture of what your goal is...

Learning how to protect yourself and others in today's day and age doesn't mean that you have to become the next UFC champion, Navy Seal or Israeli Counter Terrorist, but it IS sexy to fantasize about it isn't it?

Here's the biggest problem w/that thinking though...

Real Conflict & Violence Doesn't Look Like an
Action Movie!


Trust me, it DOES FEEL GOOD to dominate in the ring, sparring match, etc. It's fun to fantasize about training to be John Wick, Jason Bourne or 007!

HOWEVER (and this is a BIG ONE!)...

Developing the skills to be a Protector and being able to Better Defend Yourself & Others against the conflicts and violence that we face in our lives requires MORE than you strapping on some MMA gloves, buying an gun and going to a weekend warrior zombie apocalypse tac course.

So what DOES it take to Transcend your Defensive Tactics from Training to the Actual Life You're Living?

Human Conflict and Violence is Broad, so Be WELL ROUNDED! The first thing to be well rounded with is YOU!!

The Basics:

HEALTH:

Even a skilled lifeguard is useless if they are sick, hurt or unhealthy... Protectors have to be fit to protect as well!

Rest: Get a good night sleep and downtime!
Eat a well balanced diet for good nutrition (supplements?)
Hydrate.

Train for:

(1) Mobility / Flexibility / Fluidity 
(2) Strength / Stability
(3) Endurance / Stamina
(4) Breathe!

Create and keep healthy relationships. This is also HUGE!

Ethical / Spiritual Clarity, Confidence and Calmness. Know your WHY and Connect to a Bigger Picture!

Develop a good attitude.


SKILL SET When Dealing w/Conflict & Violence (The Short list):

~ Ethical Clairity (what are you protecting)
~ Risk assessment & Management skills
~ Emotional Climate Training - Staying Cool Under Pressure (Baseline)
~ Breathing skills.
~ Awareness Skills.
~ Boundary Setting skills (Beginning w/you knowing your deal breakers)
~ Presence. (Understanding what you're bringing to the game effects it)
~ Verbal Communication Skills (Specifically Conflict Communications & Deescalation Skills).
~ Listening Skills.
~ Leadership Skills.
~ First Aid Skills.
~ How to create a plan 'A' & 'B' when dealing w/conflict & violence.
~ How to physically defend your self and others in each in different modalites:
      -Long range
      -Intermedite range
      -Close quarter
      - On the ground attacker up
      - You and your attacker on the ground
      - Defending against multiple attackers
      - vs.threats: empty hand, edged, blunt, flexible, projectile and other weapons
      - Adapting your skills to vulnerable places: Vehicles, against walls,sitting, etc
      - Options for disengaging AND engaging:
                                                I. Escaping
                                               II. Stun & Run
                                              III. Incapacitating
                                              IV. Restrain & Control
       - Security tactics: Dealing w/a Subject
       - 3rd Party Protection: Protecting a Principal       -
       - Offensive Weapon Usage.
       - Psychology & protecting yourself from PTSD
       - Legal considerations
       - Cultural and community considerations
       - Surround yourself w/folks who excel at what you're doing.

I'm sure I left out some more things and as you know the list could both be broader as well as more in depth in each of those skill sets.

My point is that simply learning how to 'fight' or 'shoot' is at best a gross oversimplification of what it really takes to Protect Yourself or to Help Someone Else from Conflict or Violence!

So, like I tell the folks who train w/me before we start our force on force training including a fair amount of sparring:

Sparring (fighting) is a drill! Yes, do your best (for you, your stage of life etc.) but it isn't the be all / end all of being able to protect yourself and others from conflict and violence in life, so...

If you are good at it, GREAT! But don't get too full of yourself...

AND

If you can use some work at it, train to improve, but don't get to down on yourself or think that you can't defend yourself.

Remember every day there are thousands of people who protect themselves and others w/o any training what so ever...

AND

There are highly skilled folks that were 'taken out' by people who have no skill what so ever!

That said...

IF you're not careful, you may even be entirely on the wrong path to your goal of learning how to protect yourself (and others).

Worse yet, there are leaders and 'experts' out there that will gladly take your money, time and admiration to help you live your fantasy... (Sad I know)


So How DO You Transcend Your Training?

(1) Stay Healthy: Mind / Body / Spirit / Relationships

(2) Understand What Your Goal is for Training

(3) Be Well Rounded in the Actual Skills of Dealing w/Conflict & Violence that you are likely to run into in your life... Not the fantasy!

(4) Build a Practice, Habit & Lifestyle OUTSIDE of your Class & Training!

...And #5?!
  


Keep Going,
~Craig

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Monday, August 5, 2019

Are We Getting Too Used to This?


Glen Oakley is a hero and you should know his name

Sunday was an awesome day training some nice ladies at one of my Her Survival Guide Workshops!

Everyone did a fantastic job!

It was a great day...




Then I Heard the News...


WTH?! 

I've been a bit busy this week doing Protector Summit Interviews, teaching down at the academy and doing workshops...

Then I hear that there were not just one, but TWO MASS SHOOTINGS?!

You gotta be kidding me?!

Not again!

Once again, my heart goes out to the victims and survivors, as well as their families and loved ones...

And once again my admiration and appreciation goes out to the first responders who showed up on the scene ready to help... even putting their own lives on the line to protect others.

Below is a link to a story of one of those first responders; off duty US Army Solider Glen Oakley, who was in Walmart at the time of the shooting in El Paso. He overcame fear and stepped in as a protector to save the lives of numerous people, including children.

Here is a very heart felt BBC interview with him:

https://www.bbc.com/news/av/world-us-canada-49234014/el-paso-walmart-shooting-men-recount-taking-children-to-safety


Are We Getting Too Used to Tragedies Like This!


It seems so...

What are we going to do about them?

What are YOU going to do!?

I for one am going to stay the path of Teaching People How to Be PeaceWalkers... How to Build a Protector Lifestyle... Cultivate the right perspective and skill set to know how to Protect themselves and others better.


It's Not Just About...


Learning how to respond to threats like these. It's also about helping mentor more leaders who have influence at every level of our communities, schools, governments, businesses, city, state and federal government, in order to have more clarity as to prevention and response.

Hopefully we are able to reach more people, so that events like these don't even happen, or happen less...

And the one's that do occur, we are training More PeaceWalkers who know how to better detect and handle it early, quickly and more effectively (even if only a little).


What's the Answer...

More gun laws?
More people w/CPL's?
More government intervention?
More mental health resources?
Another president?

Both sides of the media seems to reflect the situation in a manner that serves their agenda best.

I don't have the answer...

Maybe someone does...

But, I wager the real solution is multi-faceted and won't fit into a neat box that someone can write a clever meme on.

Forget about the memes...

Do you own research!

And get ready for what...


The Bigger Question Is...


What are YOU going to do?

I know my answer...


Keep Going,
~Craig



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