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Lie Detector

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O.K. last post before I'm off the grid sailing in the Bahama's... (yea, I know life really sucks right now...) This comes from the Tips, Tricks & Tactics section of my PeaceWalker Program. It's called the Lie Detector. It was inspired by my Mom. She was the master of this... I think pretty much all Moms are. So if you don't have access to a polygraph machine or Wonder Woman's lasso of truth, this is the next best thing. It is very useful when dealing with people. It goes like this: If you feel you are being lied to and you want a better chance of extracting the truth from someone, use this tactic. It’s the same one that your mom used on you when you were a kid. Give them “the look.” Here’s how you can do this simple yet effective technique: Ask them your question. Shut up and listen. Give them “The Look” - Stare at them for 3 or 4 seconds without saying a word, nodding, using any facial expression, or blinking. Let the

The Power of Verbal Agreement

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Get Them to Verbally Commit When trying to get someone to agree to complying to your terms one good method is to get them to verbally commit to what they agreed to. The strategy might sound something like this: You: “Suzy, so if I let you get a drink of water then, you’ll go to bed? Is that right?” Suzy: “Yes.” You: “Just so I know you have it, can you repeat back to me what I said?” Suzy: “If you let me get a drink of water, I’ll go to bed.” You: “Ok then, we have a deal.” If you think that sounded a bit condescending, good, I agree with you. So, how can we get someone to verbally commit without talking down to them? Easy, try it this way: (After debating and negotiating about getting a glass of water and going to bed.) You: “Suzy, just so I understand you, could you please explain to me one more time what you are proposing?” Suzy: “I said if you let me get a drink of water, then I’ll go straight to bed.” You: “Ok, it sounds

Resiliency

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re·sil·ience rəˈzilyəns/ noun the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.       the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity. Resiliency : A word many seemed to have forgotten. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," has been replaced by 'safe zones,' trigger words, speech codes and zero tolerance policies. At the other extreme; killing and suicides resulting from varying forms of mental illness and repressed anger from bullying. It appears that the idea of 'being offended' has gone from rude or controversial to illegal, as has knowing how to appropriately stand up for yourself. Speak out against the public majority (whatever that is) and pay the consequences. Overreacting to a situation a.k.a. "making mountains of molehills," is something that seems to be prevalent as well (thanks Ricki Lake and reality TV). It seems

Peace Love & Krav Maga

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Yesterday a group of individuals came together to share adversity and a higher purpose. Each of us was challenged in our own individual way throughout the three month testing cycle. This gauntlet is the forging process developed to build clarity, confidence and resiliency not only in the testing candidates but everyone who is a part of the process. There is no replacing the experience of the journey. No amount of observation, thought, or word will take the place of doing. The forging process is something that can only be experienced directly. However, our journey here is not taken alone, it is shared by everyone at the Academy. We come together to train in an art of war in order to embrace peace. We are Protectors. PeaceWalkers. Josh Brockway Mike Smith Ryan Ruffini The day of the test was 5 1/2 exhausting, yet exhilarating hours. I can't speak for everyone, however I would dare to wager that no one came out of the experience unchanged in some way.  A