Showing posts from May, 2017

Relationship Vampires

Relationship Assessment Questions: 1) Do I feel better or worse when I'm around, talk to or think about this person? 2) Does this person usually have a positive or negative mindset and attitude? 3) Is this person taking responsibility for their life or always making excuses about being the victim of circumstance? 4) Do they support my efforts and excited about my success or do they complain about their own life when I achieve something or try to make me feel bad about myself or them? If a person is being a relationship Vampire (RV) than cut them loose and free yourself from their anchor of despair! Life is too short to keep spending time with people who are emotionally sucking you dry. I know how difficult this can be. Don't make it personal. It's not you, it's ME! Really, sometimes the chemistry just doesn't work. It could happen in your personal, professional or public life. Sometimes it's better just to cut ties and move on. That is all

10 Rules for Being Human by Dr Cherie Carter-Scott

1)    You will receive a body. You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the duration of your life on Earth. 2)  You will be presented with lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called ‘life.’ Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as part of your curriculum. 3)  There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation, a series of trials, errors, and occasional victories. The failed experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that work. 4)  A lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons will be repeated to you in various forms until you have learned them. When you have learned them, you can then go on to the next lesson. 5)   Learning does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned. 6)  ‘There’ is no better than ‘here’.

Making Decisions: The OODA Loop

This post about Col. John Boyd's OODA Loop, comes to you from the infamous Wikipedia.  You can click the link if you want to read it from that source.  The OODA Loop is yet another process that is simple and something we do all of the time, however understanding the recipe with greater clarity can help us to utilize these skills with greater success, especially during times of stress and conflict.  Rather than reinventing the wheel and writing my own article about this now famous method, I decided to re-post Wikipedia's description of Boyd's OODA Loop. So, without further ado, here it is: The phrase OODA loop refers to the decision cycle of observe, orient, decide, and act , developed by U.S. Air Force military strategist Colonel John Boyd.  Boyd applied the concept to the combat operations process , often at the strategic level in military operations. It is now also often applied to understand commercial operations and learning processes. The appr

If Only

How many of us have said this to ourselves? If only (fill in the blank) then I will be happy, successful, fulfilled, etc? However, "if only..." is always just a step a way. No matter what condition is met there always seems to be one more "if only" preventing us from that elusive happiness, success and fulfillment. What if I told you that there is no "if only" outside of yourself, preventing you from being happy, successful and fulfilled? What then? Kind of scary isn't it? Once the water settles and there's nothing to hide behind, you have to deal with the fact that you have the ability to be happy and fulfilled right here, right now in this moment, not in some fanciful far off time or place or after some big accomplishment.  What if I told you this IS it!? Right here, right NOW!? That's not to say accomplishing things in life is bad, wrong or doesn't bring with it a good feeling. But soon after the lights go down, everyone leav