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Flip Your Script

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Going from: "I don't have the time for it." TO "That's Not a Priority." That's a powerful switch!  A critical mindset shift when it comes to everything from your training to your relationships.  Teaching and training martial arts for as long as I have, I have a deep knowledge with the difference of these two perspectives. Heck, if I had a dollar for every time I heard a student say, "I'd love to train, but I just don't have the time..." When someone says that, it doesn't phase me anymore (hasn't for decades). I just think, "quit BSing yourself, because your not BSing me." Being Honest w/Yourself Try being brutally honest with yourself. Just say,  "That's Not a Priority." Or... "That's not a priority right now" When you do that enough times that it becomes a habit, you will be surprised how much it changes you.  When you start to be honest with yourself & others, you start to change at a

Gimme Three Steps

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  You know I'm getting ready to release my Essential Pistol Disarm Course, so I've been sharing some stories with my Private PeaceWalker Members. Most are personal stories from my Life. Some of them I haven't told anyone let alone written down. From stories of my mentors to run ins that I've survived over the years. Many of those experiences taught me principles and lessons that I continue to Live and teach today.  . Those experiences have really made my training more impactful. It's one thing hearing some concepts and practice in a safe gym environment, it's another thing all together, applying those principles in real time, when the stakes are much higher. . Experience is the hardest teacher. As an old parable says, Life gives you the test first and the lessons after. However, if you survive it, and learned what you needed to, then you have something to share. . And when it comes to most of the things taught in the PeaceWalker Private Membership, it's smar

Say What You Want...

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 Laird Hamilton doing what he does best Say What You Want... They're just watching what you DO! I was listening to a podcast with big wave surfing legend Laird Hamilton the other day. I am inspired by Laird, he's a 56 year old surfer who has a lot of insight and inspiration for people like us. Not surfing, but who are aging, but live an active life, full life.  On the episode I was listening to he said something that was profound for life and significant for conflict management. "Say what you want, they're just watching you." Now, when he said this, he was talking about raising kids. Meaning you can say what you want, but kids will mimic your actions.  This is significant on many levels regarding child rearing, in Life and believe it or not during conflict management. Matter of a fact, I wish I had more time to unpack this with you, but I don't really, so here's a shortened version. If you keep an eye (or ear) out for my podcast, this will be a topic on an

#1 Rule of an Argument

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I Got Into a Little Trouble... Last night I got into a little tift w/my significant other. Because I was gone since Friday, we hadn't spent any quality time together.  I was a little late getting over to her place yesterday and that ended up causing some static between the two of us... Uh oh! We ended up sorting things out and everything ended well, but things could have easily taken another direction. This is why the PeaceWalker Approach is so important. Yes, protecting yourself (and others) physically is important, however, to deal with the spectrum of conflict, you'll need more tools than that. In this case verbally and emotionally. In this case, we were both mad and off baseline. We had to dial things in and get to a spot where we could talk.  As we know, a verbal conflict can escalate. Most types of conflicts and threats we run into start out as a conversation, or at least have a verbal component to it. Which is why you need to have some emotional and verbal skills.  Here

Mask Up For Conflict!

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  Conflict Over Masks... Saturday one of my new academy members, Bob pulled me aside to tell me a story about putting his newly found PeaceWalker skills to work at his local gym. Even though Bob has only been training a couple weeks, he embraced our idea of what it means to be a PeaceWalker. He was telling me that he had his headphones on while he worked out, so he didn't notice the situation before it erupted.  Basically, the gym requires people to wear a mask while they are on premises. A hard charger came in to workout and didn't want to wear a mask. The young gal working there asked him to put one on. Upon hearing this, the guy blew a gasket and started yelling and making a scene.  Bob, told me he noticed that this guy was really starting to yell and get in this young gals face. Bob said that he was hoping that the guy would calm down or just leave. Neither of which happened.  So, Bob made one more lap and told himself that if this guy was still yelling at the gal, he'd

LaRusso & Lawrence in the Aisle

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Well, it's Monday again... Where did the weekend go? Last week I got some great correspondence back from you guys!  There's an email I received from Jim D., one of our PeaceWalker Community members, that I wanted to share with you. I think you will find it not just interesting, but beneficial too!   Danny LaRusso  or  Johnny Lawrence?! =) Craig, Just a quick note; I laughed this morning when I read your email recounting Jenn Franson's recent checkout aisle experience. Not a derisive laugh by any means, but one of honest amusement. Anyway, my source of amusement was imagining in my mind's eye, as I was reading her account, of the very real possibility of one or more burly, macho guys in proximity watching tongue-tied with mouths agape as this little wisp of a gal took charge of a nasty encounter with the potential of getting even nastier!  (Okay, maybe they wouldn't have been "burly" in the traditional sense, but next to Jenn, even a 5'-10" 150 pou

Clean Up in Aisle 3

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  I received an email from one of our long time PeaceWalker members, Jennifer Franson. She had an incident happen recently while at a clothing store. She tells how her training helped her deal with the conflict that ensued.  Here's Jenn's Story: What Did You Just Say To Me?! There is a lot going on right now and it is confusing and we need people with clarity and confidence now more than ever. For that, I suggest TRAINING!  Let me share with you something that happened that led me to that conclusion! This last week I was at a makeup store with my daughter and we were returning a gift. We were waiting patiently for the cashiers computer to get unstuck when... Suddenly a woman enters the store storming to the cashier, Let's call her Lucy. So Lucy comes in and asking her where the d boldly asks for the manager, "You know the manager who deals with secret shoppers etc..." The cashier girl tried to help her but none of it was to her liking and so she stormed off into t