Where Fear Meets Anger...
Gavin DeBecker's book "The Gift of Fear" make some
really good points about that gut feeling you get that will keep you safe.
Most people are pretty clear about why we feel fear
However...
Less people know what to do with Anger, let alone how to USE
it as a tactical advantage!
When we can throw off all of our current stigmas that
coincide with anger, namely, loss of control, guilt, shame, bullying,
victimizing... etc.
You can see anger for what it truly is and what it can be
used for.
ACTION!
Anger Equals Action!
Yep, When you're Angry, sh*t gets done!
Now I don't mean unbridled rage, temper tantrums or anything
to that extreme. I'm talking about feeling the emotion of anger, harnessing it
and using it to your advantage!
If you can accomplish that, you can use the energy that
anger gives you to good use.
However...
In this age of "being a victim" is power, the only
thing we seem to use anger to fuel is blaming, resentment and passive
aggression that can lead to greater acts of violence and sometimes tragic
consequences including suicide, 'lone wolf' attacks and terrorist activities.
We have become a society where we learn (and are expected)
to suppress a lot of anger, rather than being taught to understand how to use
it properly.
Barbarism?!
Today anger is often seen as a rude, unnecessary, loss of
control and barbarism that which isn't tolerated by our 'civilized' society. It
appears that we would much rather deal with things (initially) in a more
passive, politically correct way (faux respect), than meet things head on
appropriately, but more assertively.
So we've mastered a wide array of passive (and not so
passive, but one might say cowardly) aggression that seem to be more accepted.
Trolling, cyber bullying, ghosting, blaming, playing the
victim, (to a lessor or greater degree) entitlement, complaining or protesting
w/o lifting a finger to actually help, are just some of the examples of what is
transpiring.
It's easy to light up your (or someone else's) social media
page w/your words (and memes) of violent protest, or even put up a sign in the
lawn about your convictions. Some may even go to the extent of picketing or
putting on a demonstration...
All fine! It's great living in a country where we not only
can do these things, but have the right to do so...
However...
It's like being in a meeting with people who all have such
good idea's about how it 'should be' done (typically something that they don't
have to deal with directly themselves)...
Then...
When it comes time for someone to step forward to actually
do something about it, no one has anything but excuses as to why it 'should' be
different, but they are too busy or otherwise indisposed to dig in and actually
help implement the change they are suggesting. And/or the change is so
idealistically unrealistic at this time it doesn't leave room of how things
happen in real time.
It's easy to be an 'arm chair quarter back!'
But don't miss read me, I'm not advocating that voicing your
protest is wrong, nor that violence as the ultimate way to manage conflict. I'm
just saying that it's easier to complain than actually DO something and it
appears that the pendulum has swung in that direction (some might say quite a
bit).
Use It... Don't Lose It!
Use the intensity your anger gives you for (appropriate)
action. Don't just 'lose it' and wast all that raw energy on being impulsive!
If you are taught to use your emotions they are your ally...
Unfortunately today we are taught to suppress many emotions
that we find 'unsavory', we lack the mentoring necessary to teach others how to
use that energy correctly to gain the advantages they were meant to give.
Another reason for good training!
Good training will help you to not only navigate those
emotions, but use them to your distinct advantage.
If you suppress them they are not only useless, they are a
detriment in the moment and will cause serious psychological/emotional problems
in your life.
An Observation...
I'm no sociologist but I believe that part of what we are
experiencing today, which is across the board a DECREASE in 'standard' forms of
social violence, but an INCREASE in more extremes like suicide, active shooting
events and terrorism (each of these categories have risen extensively in the
past 20 years), is due to this trend of teaching (a.d.a. socializing) people to
be more passive beyond the point of comfort and what we would naturally,
instinctively do on our own (or possibly it is the transition or social
'evolution' that we are experiencing with such resistance?).
So, most people in the the mainstream comply and are, more
or less minimally negatively affected emotionally or psychologically. However
at the extremes, the people on the fringe have a greater reaction to the
suppression, thus losing their 'release' valve so to speak, which results in
the increase of the more extreme forms of violence...
This coupled with the 'establishment' (which could be our
government, school, place of work, etc... basically our society as a whole) has
become less tolerant of lessor forms of violence and more idealistic as to
outcomes of how situations should be handled. Not to mention making claims that
are not and cannot always be backed up...
Namely, 'we' don't trust you to protect yourself. 'We' will
protect you. But when that doesn't happen it leaves most people in a
social/emotional gridlock of confusion, doubt, frustration, fear and anger.
We are (often) taught that standing up for ourselves is
wrong or that the margin for error or misjudgment is so fine and the
consequence for stepping out of line so great, that the infraction of not
following the establishments rules supersedes that of the violator infringement
of the victim.
WOW!
We are taught that we don't have the expertise necessary to
do a good enough job and we need someone of authority to do it on our behalf.
We begin to believe that we are not 'authorized' to protect
ourselves. So, we begin to do it less. Relying on the authorities more...
And for the most part that works, because we DO live in an
overall less violent society.
But for some, when they've been taught that they will be
taken care of, but then the establishment doesn't protect them...
The feeling of resentment is multiplied by feeling betrayed
because they've been taught that going against the establishment holds a
greater consequence than someone victimizing them.
At a deep level they
want to do as their society expects, however they are sick and tired of feeling
victimized, marginalized and disrespected (imagined or real)...
So they begin to feel resentment, becoming more conflicted,
confused and angry.
In they're head they create a bigger enemy...
And that, in extreme cases can motivate some to:
Implode - Suicide
Explode - Active shooter, 'lone wolf' attacks, active
assailant, joining extremist groups and act terrorism, etc.
Now I realize that I have not dug my heels in to do a full
researched study... and probably won't, but that is my view of it at this point
in time with the research I have done, what I see happening and the experiences
I have had.
So, How Do YOU Turn Your Anger Into An Advantage?!
.
And What Does Israel Have to Do With It?!
I'll tell you in the next post!
In the meantime...
Have a Great Day!
All the best,
~Craig
P.S. Get more FREE Tips, Tricks & Tactics about Living a Protector's Life - Sign up on www.peacewalkersubscribe.com.
Posts
