The Things You Have Control Of

 



Did you have a good Thanksgiving?

Mine was good.

A bit of a progressive involving a few stops…, but good all the same.

I hope yours was as well?!

I hope you were able to enjoy and be present in your gratefulness of all the things that you have. It’s easy to pay more attention of the things you lack. The things that are wrong. The things you’d like to change.

This happens so much so that we often overlook all of the things in life that we do have, all the things in Life we can control.

Same, Same?!

It’s the same when it comes to dealing with conflict and violence. People often gravitate toward the things they can’t do rather than the things they can. Many waste precious time and energy fixating on all of the details they have little or no control over, rather than decisively acting on those things they have more influence on… Namely themselves.

Here lies the practice of your training. Knowing what to focus and act upon vs. what not to. Seems simple enough, but many miss it. Rather, they focus their efforts on the things they have minimal control over. Trying to make others or the situation bend to their will overtly is like hammering that square peg in a round hole… It’s possible but it takes a lot of energy and typically brakes things.

The Victim vs. Empowered Mindset is a great example of changing your perspective to better deal with challenges that arise in your Life.

VICTIM MENTALITY focuses on:

  • Problems: Hyper focus on what’s wrong.

  • Helplessness: Things they can’t do.

  • Blame: Someone or something other than themselves.

EMPOWERED MENTALALITY focuses on:

  • Solutions: Figuring out the problem

  • Options: What they CAN do.

  • Action: What’s the first or next step toward a solution.

Structure?!

There is a way to structure your approach to maximize your ability to influence people and situations. However, that structure is not always intuitive. It’s easy to get off track and run into problems.

What?!

Yes, this structure I’m talking about is simple not easy. Quite frankly it’s simpler than people give it credit for. They over complicate things to the point where they themselves become the problem.

SOLUTION?!

Your first step is to begin to take more responsibility for you, your decisions and your actions… Stop taking so much responsibility for those things you don’t have control over.

Re-read and put into practice that Victim vs. Empowered Framework that I just shared with you. Its profound simplicity holds the key to dealing with conflict in your Life.

Is there more to it?!

Of course…

The PeaceWalker Approach is a series of simple frameworks (like that one) that are intricately woven together to help you better navigate the conflict and violence that happens inside and around you each and every day.

  • Self Defense?! Yes.

  • Conflict Managment? Yup.

  • Leadership? That too.

  • Personal Development?! Of course! It has to be. They are all woven together. There is no real personal protection w/o personal development. It all goes together hand in hand.

Today’s a great day to see what a difference this approach can make in your Life!


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All the best,

~Craig

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